Thursday, December 31, 2009

What is the most important quality in a spouse?

Just curious what is on the top of the list for most people....What is the most important quality in a spouse?
Someone that is my best friend. When you are friends first, all the other things Just fall into place like:





Trust


Respect


Love


Ect...What is the most important quality in a spouse?
I agree with trash13, it's respect.





Every other quality flows out of that--compassion, fidelity, patience...it's the best place to base all the other things.
Putting up with my sh%26amp;t, Not that I give them any, but definitely for any relationship to work they have to be able to put up with the silly things and stupid things each other do.





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Someone who is your friend as well as your romantic partner. A lot of marriage is being friends and really, truly liking each other.
Loyalty.
Friendship.
compassion %26amp; respect.
quantity.
To be trusted is a better complement than to be loved! Nothing beats trust, hands down for me!
Maturity
Someone who you can put up with!
Love me and be a good communicator!
support
One word covers it all: RESPECT!!!
Trust..=)
A good team player. Not selfish
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  • What made you fall in love with your spouse?

    When did you know that you fell in love? What happened?What made you fall in love with your spouse?
    I think it was the chocolate cake that did me in.What made you fall in love with your spouse?
    Everything about him made me fall in love with him. Although I didn't realize that what I felt was love until he said he loved me. Then I really thought about it for a few days and that's when it hit me - I'm in love with this man! So, two days after he told me, I told him back. Here we are, over four years later and more in love every day!
    I fell in love with him so slowly, that I barely realized it until I was too fargone :) We started just as friends, so there was laughter, friendship and a platonic affection. What started was a realization of suddenly having chemistry-moments that hadn't been awkward before suddenly were-a leaned head on one another's shoulder would linger, a formerly light compliment had a bit more observation, etc. But we avoided making an issue of the awkwardness because we didn't want to spoil the friendship. But then we asked, ';Well...what IF I held his hand?'; ';What IF we slowdanced?'; etc. Wasn't the best relationship a friendship with romance peppered in? So, we went for it. And pretty much as soon as we started formally dating, we knew it was love. Because it was so...easy-being with him, caring for him, being swept off my feet. It was safe, and happy, and we knew one anothers' flaws and weaknesses and we still were crazy about each other. We realized it was love, and we never looked back. :)
    Well, the fact that all i wanted to do was be with him i was constantly thinking about him when we weren't together. and also when we met i had a life with friends and family going out and partying all the time and when i met him all i wanted to do was stay w/ him and do ABSOLUTELY nothing. Besides that he has a perfect smile, shy, easy on the eyes, and has the most gentle hands.
    I was young and naive, so it was pretty much love at first sight. It's quite romantic when you think about it. Now that I am older, I am way too smart for something like that, so I really think it is a miracle that I started trusting him so completely from day one and we are still happy together. We have been married for 12 years, as I am sure most everyone already knows by now.
    Well, more or so hes my boyfriend right now.


    But i know when i love somebody, and i for sure am in love my boyfriend, at the moment ;]





    I fell in love with his personality, of course people say it is all about personality, but Really? you also need to have a little attraction in there. If wasn't any attraction in the relationship to one another? then whats the point..





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    It was definitely lust at first sight. I can't think of a specific event that made me realize I was in love with him. He is funny, handsome and he is the kindest man I have ever met. The big L kind of snuck up on us. I didn't want a relationship and neither did he. We didn't tell each other we loved each other until after we had been together a year but we both knew we did. It just kind of happend.
    He was everything I am not. It was almost like two pieces of a puzzle fitting together. There could not possibly be another person more perfect. I was shy, he was outgoing. All I could do was think about him. We were in high school still when we met and despite my parents not liking him, I had to be with him no matter what, and boy am I glad i stood up to them and stayed with him. He was so handsome too which really helped. Th most gorgeous smile with huge dimples, always makes me melt still to this day
    She was gorgeous and always smiling and I was happy when I was around her and couldnt stop thinking of her when we werent together
    OMG......!!!!





    you just made me realize that i'm not in love with my wife.





    i'm going to call my attorney right away for a divorce.





    thank you.
    he made me laugh a lot.....


    and he is cutie patutie
    it was him and his smile. his hands are awesome
    she put out, how could i go wrong?

    How Planets are placed in a Horoscope to indicate a person has more than one spouse?

    Some people divorce and seek second marrige and some lose their spoue and seek another marriage.


    What are the planets which forces a person to have more than one spouse and how they are located in a horoscope in such cases?How Planets are placed in a Horoscope to indicate a person has more than one spouse?
    It depends from horoscope to horoscope and provided the exact time of birth is known proper calculations can be made. It is not necessary that it be a marriage it can be an affair or a close connection also.


    Its not written in stone because positions of planets can also not be calculated to precision.


    In short live a happy life and don't worry about all this stuff, whatever is meant to happen will happen you like it or not. :)How Planets are placed in a Horoscope to indicate a person has more than one spouse?
    Consider the following...





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    The mutable signs are Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces. Medieval astrologers said if the ruler of the 7th house was in a mutable sign it indicated two or more marriages. I wouldn't bet too heavily on it. General George Patton had Sagittarius on the the 7th cusp and its ruler Jupiter in Virgo and he was only married once.
    umm

    When a spouse dies do you have to pay his debts?

    My spouse died June 3rd from pancreatic cancer. we have separate credit cards in our own names etc...I got a letter from his credit card company stating that who ever is taking over his estate has to pay his bill. I am living in the house because it's in both names. Do I have to pay his bill even though my name isn't own his credit company even though I am his spouse?When a spouse dies do you have to pay his debts?
    If your the executor of his estate, as you most likely are, then yes you will be responsible to pay for his debts FROM any or all estate assets. Assets that you held in your name only MAY be protected from creditors.





    If the house was jointly owned then creditors will have a right to put a lien on the house for 1/2 of the value of the house, if necessary. As for any other assets held jointly 1/2 of their value will also belong in his estate.(Checking, savings, etc) If assets were held in trust(sounds unlikely) then you have another whole different situation.





    Please see a qualified attorney in your area. Estate and trust law varies from state to state and this forum is not appropriate for anything more complicated beyond cashing in banking accounts and life insurance proceeds to pay off or retire debts of the estate.When a spouse dies do you have to pay his debts?
    His bill has to be paid from his estate, which normally wouldn't include a house in joint names as that now belongs to you. His estate is money he had in the bank, savings accounts, life assurance policies etc. As spouse, you are only entitled to inherit what is left after his bills are paid. If he had absolutely no other assets or savings, the debts die with him. It is the job of executor to pay the bills outstanding. If that is you, take some advice so you know what to do. If it is someone else, let that person handle it.
    You need a lawyer on this one--go to a legal clinic.

    Where will i get my US tourist visa here in australia where i live through spouse visa or in the philippines?

    im still a filipino citizen married to an australian and were planning to go to US for a holiday yet i dont have my tourist visa in the US can i get it here in Australia or need to go back in the philippines?Where will i get my US tourist visa here in australia where i live through spouse visa or in the philippines?
    Apply where you reside.

    If your spouse got injured and is no longer able to satisfy you, what would you do?

    Would you leave him/her and seek another partner? Or would stay with him/her and lead a sexless life? If your spouse got injured and is no longer able to satisfy you, what would you do?
    I would stay....he had no control over what happened to him so why should I make him suffer even more by leaving him all alone. If your spouse got injured and is no longer able to satisfy you, what would you do?
    leave
    If I am being honest I would have a sexual relationship with someone else.Anyone can say they would not cheat,but it is completely unrealistic.My husband is in the army and could be injured,and we have already talked about this.He wouldn't want me to be unhappy,as I wouldn't want him to be either.
    I would have to leave. Just being honest.



    I would stay.





    The reason I say this is..my husband was deployed to Iraq. Now thank god he was not injured at all, so I don't have that problem. However if he was injured, I would stay with him because I love him. The sex isn't all that important. If you love someone then you will be by their side with missing arms or all limbs attached.
    Is his tongue broke too?
    Id certainly stay with my spouse.
    Leave!
    Of course not. Who would leave someone that they love because of an injury
    I'd stay...but I would have a wide array of battery operated toys !
    you shouldnt leave. but if your spouse loves you the way they tell you they do, they ought to give you their support and let you have sex with other people.
    Stay. I love my wife and sex isn't the end all or be all in our relationship.





    There are other ways that couple can satisfy each other too.
    Well unless I married this person only for sex then I would leave


    But since I wouldn't marry someone only for sex I would stay as long as he is still being affectionate with me and treating me right.


    And besides there are other ways to please someone sexually, I mean is he not able to perform oral, or use his fingers and lets not forget the tons of toys that are out there for us women.
    Sex is great and I would surely miss it, but there's more with my LOVE for him then just sex. I'm definite that I will stand by his side. After all I married him, so until death til us part it is.
    stay with him but get a vibrator =P
    I would stand by my husband, no matter what.. as he would do for me....
    honestly , i would never leave my husband or cheat, i would only divorce if he hurt me or our children. if sex became factor i would invest in several good toys and let him participate any way he could even if it was just watching and telling me what he would like me to do.when you marry you take the good with the bad, only a total a** would leave their spouse. my mother left my dad with terminal cancer while i know that has nothing to do with our relationship and i love and continue a relationship with her. i know in my heart it was totally wrong and have never seen her in the same lite again
    for u to ask this, it's obvious that u won't or didn't marry for love.
    did he also lose his lips? voice? eyes? hands? arms? kindness?





    if he lost all that too I'd be devastated. otherwise, I think I'd be okay.






    How would you deal with you and your spouse having to share a suite with a?

    very young adult at a conference?How would you deal with you and your spouse having to share a suite with a?
    We would take turns ';doing'; him.


    peace.





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  • Where can I find out how long my spouse has his green card?

    How do I know if its a conditional green card or a 10 year green card?Where can I find out how long my spouse has his green card?
    Check his green card for dates of ';Resident Since'; and ';Card Expires';.You can tell from there if it is a 2-year or a 10-year green card.Where can I find out how long my spouse has his green card?
    By the date on it ..look at the expiry date


    and conditional may have CR


    non conditional IR

    How many times a day do you fantasize about either leaving your spouse, having another spouse or being single?

    Me? Probably 5-6 times a day. How many times a day do you fantasize about either leaving your spouse, having another spouse or being single?
    Ok, it seems like you have a problem, you need to get away with your wife and have a good time. i think your daily routines are ruining your marriage. Get the lingerie in no matter what size, go home eat your chicken tell her to put the lingerie on and get some dessert!!!!


    You spend too much time thinking, start acting out your fantasies, have as much fun with your wife as you can, do not fantazized about the times, make those times happen, maybe she thinks the same way. ask her to get buck naked, lie down on table and be the plate for your chicken, but be careful with the spork!!!How many times a day do you fantasize about either leaving your spouse, having another spouse or being single?
    I think about that sometimes,not every day but it does cross my mind,I think that its normal.I fantasize about getting a divorce and buying a nice little house for me and my daughter,I even sometimes look at real estate listings and think of myself in a certain house that I see on the internet,then it goes immediately to when my daughter isn't there and all the beer I would be drinking and all of the chicks I would be trying to nail in various rooms,isn't it great being a guy,guy fantasy's are the best.My personal thoughts on your situation is that maybe you should make these fantasy's a reality
    I used to sometimes back when he wasn't treating me right. I thought how much simpler, freer and easier my life would be. I don't know how many times a day I would have those thoughts, but I'd say there were days when it would have matched yours. It has been quite some time since I've had those thoughts. He is treating me better now and our married life has greatly improved.


    Things are still not going well for you. Sorry to hear that. It can be like an emotional roller coaster when you're having bad problems in your marriage, contemplating or going through divorce, and then even the reconciliation attempts. Sometimes it can work, but not for everyone.
    All the time. As much as you. In fact my coworkers go on and on about there husbands and I dont say anything, and for months they didnt know I was married. I dont know what that means, if it is good or bad. I know people say the grass is always greener, but that grass looks like someone uses miracle grow. I feel your pain sister.
    I never think of any of these things cause i love my husband more then anything and i wouldn't want to leave him,have a different husband and i wouldn't want to be single again.
    For the past two years of marriage, which have been destructive and terrible, all the time.
    Never ever ever.





    But with my first husband I used to - I felt like I was always meeting people and thinking that I could be happier with them.





    My second (and current) husband I have not once felt that way.
    lol, this is a funny questions to me,, i think about 2 times a week... Even more when we argue though...i think it's natural though..
    Sometimes I think about it all day long and that's how I get through the day. But I'm trying to be more accepting and expect less.
    NEVER. Maybe you should ask yourself why you feel this way.
    alot lately---is this normal or an omen....


    (coddle me here and say normal)
    i loose count but there will never be another spouse so i don;t have to worry about that one,



    n-e-v-e-r! thats why u get married. ur shouldnt be married. feeling this way is a sign that u want to find something new. but before u do. leave her first. cuz that would just break her heart.
    Never, I don't wish to be with anyone but my husband.

    How many times a day do you fantasize about either leaving your spouse, having another spouse or being single?

    Me? Probably 5-6 times a day. How many times a day do you fantasize about either leaving your spouse, having another spouse or being single?
    Ok, it seems like you have a problem, you need to get away with your wife and have a good time. i think your daily routines are ruining your marriage. Get the lingerie in no matter what size, go home eat your chicken tell her to put the lingerie on and get some dessert!!!!


    You spend too much time thinking, start acting out your fantasies, have as much fun with your wife as you can, do not fantazized about the times, make those times happen, maybe she thinks the same way. ask her to get buck naked, lie down on table and be the plate for your chicken, but be careful with the spork!!!How many times a day do you fantasize about either leaving your spouse, having another spouse or being single?
    I think about that sometimes,not every day but it does cross my mind,I think that its normal.I fantasize about getting a divorce and buying a nice little house for me and my daughter,I even sometimes look at real estate listings and think of myself in a certain house that I see on the internet,then it goes immediately to when my daughter isn't there and all the beer I would be drinking and all of the chicks I would be trying to nail in various rooms,isn't it great being a guy,guy fantasy's are the best.My personal thoughts on your situation is that maybe you should make these fantasy's a reality
    I used to sometimes back when he wasn't treating me right. I thought how much simpler, freer and easier my life would be. I don't know how many times a day I would have those thoughts, but I'd say there were days when it would have matched yours. It has been quite some time since I've had those thoughts. He is treating me better now and our married life has greatly improved.


    Things are still not going well for you. Sorry to hear that. It can be like an emotional roller coaster when you're having bad problems in your marriage, contemplating or going through divorce, and then even the reconciliation attempts. Sometimes it can work, but not for everyone.
    All the time. As much as you. In fact my coworkers go on and on about there husbands and I dont say anything, and for months they didnt know I was married. I dont know what that means, if it is good or bad. I know people say the grass is always greener, but that grass looks like someone uses miracle grow. I feel your pain sister.
    I never think of any of these things cause i love my husband more then anything and i wouldn't want to leave him,have a different husband and i wouldn't want to be single again.
    For the past two years of marriage, which have been destructive and terrible, all the time.
    Never ever ever.





    But with my first husband I used to - I felt like I was always meeting people and thinking that I could be happier with them.





    My second (and current) husband I have not once felt that way.
    lol, this is a funny questions to me,, i think about 2 times a week... Even more when we argue though...i think it's natural though..
    Sometimes I think about it all day long and that's how I get through the day. But I'm trying to be more accepting and expect less.
    NEVER. Maybe you should ask yourself why you feel this way.
    alot lately---is this normal or an omen....


    (coddle me here and say normal)
    i loose count but there will never be another spouse so i don;t have to worry about that one,



    n-e-v-e-r! thats why u get married. ur shouldnt be married. feeling this way is a sign that u want to find something new. but before u do. leave her first. cuz that would just break her heart.
    Never, I don't wish to be with anyone but my husband.

    Can my spouse represent me in court on my behalf with a power of attorney?

    I'm in the military and will be deployed on the court date. I am trying to ';fight'; a speeding ticket I received here in the oh-so great state of California. Is it legal for my spouse to show up in court on my behalf?Can my spouse represent me in court on my behalf with a power of attorney?
    Just to support the correct answers here, ';power of attorney'; is a grant of authority to another to perform certain legal procedures, such as signing a contract or making medical decisions. It does not give somebody the power to act as an attorney in court. You will have to show up yourself, or hire a licensed attorney.





    However, you may wish to avail yourself of the ';trial by declaration'; option, which will not require an appearance by anybody.Can my spouse represent me in court on my behalf with a power of attorney?
    No, no one qw2ho is not a licensed attorney can speak for you in court- HOWEVER, if you are going to be out of the State or Nation, with the US military, the court Must reschedule the hearing for a date when you will be available. Send a certified letter to the court clerk and explain why you cannot appear. Make certain that you get a return mail receipt from the court.


    Then call the clerk of the court and tell them your story and that you have sent a letter to them.


    They will almost certainly work with you on this and the judge may just dismiss it.


    Good luck on this and on your deployment.


    And Thank you.
    You can represent yourself or an attorney can represent you. No one else. Call the court, explain the situation and see what they say.
    I think you should bounce this off of an actual attoryney. I would check out the site below for ideas. Good luck





    http://socalattorneyfinder.com
    yes but you really should have an attorney.

    Does a spouse of a national guard member get free medical benefits while the service member is on active statu?

    Medical benefits for spouse of Army National guard member you is on activation orders fro a month?Does a spouse of a national guard member get free medical benefits while the service member is on active statu?
    yes i believe so.... but ask.





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    If one spouse files for bankruptcy, will this affect the credit rating of the other?

    Two people getting married soon. One has terrible credit. The other's credit rating is very good.If one spouse files for bankruptcy, will this affect the credit rating of the other?
    No it doesn't. My wife filed for just the things in her name only. It didn't affect mine at all. Just remember that for a while, if you open new loans or buy a car or whatever, you'll have to do it in just the one person's name. However, you can still use both people's income to get the loan.If one spouse files for bankruptcy, will this affect the credit rating of the other?
    No. But if you decide to buy a home or other large items in both your names, you might be turned down.
    it shouldn`t i just got thru doing it myself and my other wasn`t effected by it but then again it depends on where you live the laws are different for each state
    Yes.
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  • How long should a person grieve for their spouse after they have pass away?

    If they has been decsead for only 3 mnth's. And they were married for 32 years ???How long should a person grieve for their spouse after they have pass away?
    Grieving is for life. Though the greatest deal of grief is at the onset the throes of grief can/may lessen over time.





    My father grieved fiercely after my mother's sudden passing 1 month shy of their 26 anniversary. I actually began worrying about his state of mind and whether he was considering suicide (he all but said he was).





    At Valentine's Day, 3 months later, he went to the cemetary to visit mom... He then remembered that they had agreed with one another that if something should happen that the survivor should move on and enjoy their days on earth and the rest of their life...





    Not ready, but also not knowing what dating was like 2 1/2 decades later, my father signed onto Match.com...





    He came across a woman who was ';him with t*ts'; (as I said). He contacted her not wanting to lose the opportunity. He still grieved for my mother, and this woman respected and expected that from ALL of us. She was perfect for him. No other person in this world (not even MY mother) was a better match.





    Unfortunately, 2 weeks before my father was to propose... She was killed in a motorcycle accident. Now all of us are in the throes of grief once more, but at least this time my father is willing to open his eyes, see what is out there and experience what little life none of us can take for granted...





    So, no amount of time is too much or too little, and even if the survivor moves on doesn't mean they don't and won't still grieve for their lifetime.How long should a person grieve for their spouse after they have pass away?
    It depends on how this person has died. When your spouse has been fighting a long illness and you knew it was a matter of time before death takes them away then some grieving has already been done and after the actual death of the spouse the person may have a shorter emotional recovery. If the person dies by an accident and it's completely unexpected it may take years before the person finds some kind of closure.
    I lost my husband we were together for 9 yrs married 5 it doesn't matter how long if you were truly in love then it hurts no matter what. It has been 4 yrs this year for me and im now remarried. But there is not a day goes by that i dont think of him or sit and cry because i miss him and love him . I really grieved hard for about a yr and a half from crying screaming yelling not talking to depression to anxiexty and then to blaming myself it takes time and when there are kids like my situation it is even harder because you cant put it in the back of your mind you have to share with them who he was and where they come from.
    When someone in your life dies; you will always grieve.





    People who have never lost a spouse can only imagine and pretend to know what it would be like. But they don't know.





    Cliche statements like ';time heals all wounds'; and ';it will get easier with time'; is a bunch of bullsh!t. You just learn to live with the pain. Much like an amputation. Will time really heal the fact that someone lost their legs? NO. But that person will learn to live without those legs.
    Only the person grieving can answer that question. My husband's uncle was married for 50 years and was dating about a month after his wife died. He was remarried within a year. I was shocked but my husband reminded me that we don't know what type of an agreement they had before she died. His other uncle (different sides of the family) met his future wife when they were both at the cancer unit with their spouses. Uncle Tom married his wife 6 months after my husband's aunt died. It is until death do you part. Some people take it literally.
    believe me.....


    there is no set time for grieving over your spouse...... everyone grieves in their own time and in their own way......


    regardless of how long it has been.... there will always be a time come about... that moment... when it will hit you like a ton of bricks again......


    you learn to continue on with life... and the saying it gets easier is not true...... it never gets easier.... you just learn to handle and deal with it...... there will be good days and there will be bad days..... in the beginning there are way more bad days than good days..... over time the good days will begin to out weigh the bad days.......... but there will always be bad days no mater how long it has been............ at times they may want to just give up themselves.... that is a normal feeling.....





    i lost my husband of 26yrs in june of 2005..... at times i have moments with the flood gates open and it just rushes all over me like it did the day i lost my husband.... i was totally unprepared..... my husband was a security officer and was shot while on duty and died immediately.... no chance to say the last goodbyes...





    this is something that cannot be pushed or rushed through...... it is a process that everyone goes through in their own way, in their own time... there is no right or wrong way for a spouse to grieve.....





    there are several good books on losing a spouse that may help......





    finding your way after your spouse dies..... by, marta felber


    and


    i wasn't ready to say goodbye.... by brook noel %26amp; pamela blair





    the main thing is for the family and friends to be there for support and not judge the widow/widower..... no matter how long it has been since the loss.....
    I think we need to have a broad definition of the word ';grieve';. If you mean sit in the dark sobbing, or not date anyone else, or what?





    Different people grieve in different ways. Some withdraw. Some do their best to carry on with life as normally as possible to stay sane. It may APPEAR to you and I that they don't care, but more than likely they do. It's a coping mechanism.





    If you mean until they date again, I would stab that 3 months is short after 32 years, but it's not really my decision to make.
    There is no time limit. Some people take a very long time. I wonder about people that don't seem to grieve.
    Maybe a year? I think I would still 'feel' married for awhile.


    **Although my sis-in-law says men marry faster than women.





    ADD: sorry, I mis-read the question :(
    It depends on the marriage and if it was sudden or not.
    it all depends on that person and when they are ready.
    no time limit,,everyone is different
    No way to answer.

    How long does it take to get a spouse visa to UK?

    Me and my husband don't have any idea yet what to do for me to go to UK. We just got married last month. He's from UK, and i'm from the Philippines. They say i'll apply for spouse visa? What are the documents needed? What would we do for me to go to UK as soon as possible? Please help us..How long does it take to get a spouse visa to UK?
    You may get a better response if you post this question in Immigration.

    Do you think it is ok for a spouse to go away overnight every few weeks?

    This has been going on for several months, always to help family, see a friend a couple of states away where we used to live, just to hang with old friends. It is about every few weeks, but I hate it. I can only get in touch with him overnight rarely. Other times, he calls me. Do you think it is ok for a spouse to go away overnight every few weeks?
    no its not okay for a husband to leave his wife, next time demand that he take u also.and it sounds fishy that u can't contact him.Do you think it is ok for a spouse to go away overnight every few weeks?
    Marriage/relationships aren't prison sentences, though they may seem that way sometimes. People need to have time when they are a singular person and not a couple or they can feel the loss of a part of themselves. Many people have to be away from home with their careers.





    Basically, it's do you trust him or do you not.





    It's always easier for someone to cheat when away from home. There are many telltale signs, a lot of people would prefer not to know. I think the suggestion to go along with him is a good one, then you can meet his friends, but mainly from the answerer's point of view for his reaction to your request to go along.





    You probably are worrying about nothing but it would do no harm to pose the question of going to, especially deciding to go with him at short notice so he has to think on his feet. If he has something to hide it will show.
    It really depends on the circumstances. Is this something that he's always done? Is it something new? Are you ever invited to come along?





    During the past several years I've taken the kids out of the house to visit family 2-3 weekends per month, and left my husband at home alone. This was done because he returned to college for a career change and needed extra time to study during the weekends. He wasn't able to accomplish as much when we were around. It was hard for all of us, but it's something that was ultimately beneficial to us as a family.





    No circumstances are going to match that directly, but the reasons for your husband spending so much time out of town could be suspect. Do you really believe that he is doing the things he states he is, or do you have concern that he's not being honest about where he is? Have you told him that you'd like to go, or that you're uncomfortable with the amount of time he spends out of town?





    I'd start by letting him know that the frenquency of his trips is troubling to you and that you'd appreciate it if he could decrease (not necessarily stop) them in some way. It would also be a good idea to take a couple of these trips with him. If he's unwilling to compromise on the amount of time he spends away from home, or if he doesn't want you to come with him, then you might be looking at a more serious problem.
    Really.. it depends on how ';serious'; the relationship is and how long you have been together. If you live together and he doe's this there's soemthing that sounds strange to me about it. My fiance and I have been together for 6 years and if he did that we'd most def. be OVER.





    Not saying that he's cheating. But he's def. going out and enjoying himself. Most guy's hate to be away from their girlfriends! You need to start going out and staying out one night and see how he feels about it!
    It sounds odd to me but I have a suspicious nature. I always want to be part of what the plans are because we spend so much of our time working and away from one another. If he never asked me to go with, I would be hurt. If it were my choice to stay home, I would feel better. Not being able to get in touch with him is also troubling. If he misses the old friends, relatives etc. Why did you mover? He needs to develop his life where you are and where you live now. How does he expect to get to know people where you live if he's always gone? I would say that this puts unnecessary strain on your marriage and you need to talk about it before things do get out of hand. They are not going on a good path currently from the sound of things.
    If he is going to visit or help family as he claims, then I would tell him you want to go to, after all, family is family. I could understand visiting friends every-now-and-then just to have a change of pace but not every three weeks or so. Aren't his friends your friends too? Don't they have wives too? Tell him you want to go along and stick to your guns.
    ok, it doesnt make much sense for you to be married and he doesn't automatically invite you to go with him at some point, even if it's just to see his family. sometimes you just wanna get away with your friends but every two weeks to see friends/family and you NEVER go?? HELL TO THA NAW!!! all the elements you are describing sound fishy. i agree with everyone else that you should suggest tagging along a couple of times and check out his response. then decide. because that doesnt make sense for him not to invite you ever and then he only calls YOU. no way. been there done that girl. if so drop him!
    Hello!!!! It's time to wake up! He's cheating on you. Of course he's not going to accept calls from you, he's with his girlfriend. That's why he calls you.





    Get smart! Each time he says he has to make one of his little trips, Don't ask, tell him you are going with him. He'll try to make some excuse for why you can't go. If he goes with out you, then follow him or hire a private detective. You can catch a cheater, you just have to want to.
    Yeah - if I did that the locks would be changed when I got home.





    I visit my sister out in Boston maybe twice a year - if that - overnight. I call him when I get there so he doesn't worry (150 miles) and if I get there in the morning - I call to say goodnight and I love you in the evening.





    Every couple of weeks? That is not right.
    Doesn't sound very good! I think you should ask to come with him sometimes. Tell him that you'd really like to get away for a change of scene and that it would be fun for the two of you to go.





    It isn't right that you can't get in touch with him. Tell him either he'd better answer the phone or stop going.
    Depends on who you talk to but most marriage counselors suggest avoiding as much overnight apart time as possible. Look it up. They claim that it easily places a wedge between the couple and that leads to trouble. If you have to be away, for work or what not. Then communicate regularly and check in. trust me...
    ask him if you could also go along with him.because you also would like to look up old friends..if he says know something else could be going on...


    and yes if a couple does love each other enough and trust each other enough it is ok to go away once in a while. like at most once or twice a year ....but not every few weeks..



    no i don't think it ok. if it work related that different . but just to hang out no if he does that all the time he is involve with someone else. you have to talk to him about it. find out the truth he may be telling the truth.
    You must have had friends when you lived there as well. Next time he says he is going on the trip, don't ask him tell him that you are going too. If he starts to fuss say you are going and nothing will change your mind. Take it from there after .
    It is only acceptable if he is asking you to come along and you are saying no. If he is not inviting you-invite yourself. NExt time he says he is going tell him you are going with him. If he says no then something else is going on.
    I would say that its ok, granted that there is financial stability that would allow him to do this. AND that if youwanted to do the same, he would do so without batting an eye
    Would you feel differently about the situation if he was going away for work related reasons?





    I think its normal for couples/spouses to spend time apart. Maybe you could plan your own time away - go see your old friends and family?!






    Why not surprise him and go with him, or surprise him when he is there by dropping in. That is the only way you will get over your worry about what he is doing. Do not be surprised if it is what you think!
    If it is related to work it is ok or if he invites you to go along it is ok. Otherwise I don't like it.
    Sounds kinky! Nah seriously that's normal, completely normal!
    NO! It sounds like he's cheating on you. Ask to go with him and see if he stumbles over his words to persuade you not to go.
    Wrong wrong wrong wrong it's wrong.
    no is not ok! i would think he has another wife to go to! or another family! talk to him to stop this or just leave him sweetie ! good luck
    If you have trust in your relationship, then I don't see any reason why it would be a problem
    No he should be at home with him wife.
    You should say that you would like to go too. See the reaction and then decide what you think of it.
    sounds like extra curricular activies to me.......
    No. You should demand to go with him. It doesn't sound like he is being true to you. Sounds suspicious to me
    One way to find out. Suggest you go with him next time.
    He is cheating ,all the signs are there he has two lifes
    sounds like a booty call to me

    Can my spouse buy us a new house after a foreclosure on my credit?

    We recently moved out of our house due to a high mortgage and impending foreclosure. My husband is on the title but not the mortgage. He has pretty good credit, will he be able to buy another house under his name? Should I take his name off the title of the other house before the foreclosure is official?Can my spouse buy us a new house after a foreclosure on my credit?
    Yes, he has a better chance of buying a new house under his name if he does not have foreclosure on his credit report. His income also needs to meet requirements, which varies depending on your mortgage lender.Can my spouse buy us a new house after a foreclosure on my credit?
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    If he signed papers for that house then he will have the foreclosure on his credit too. You should be able to buy another house just give yourself some time to recoup from this.





    Good Luck!
    it would have to be done with only his credit and HIS income - you couldn;t use your income to qualify for the mortgage
    I doubt it, good luck.

    When do you start believing the liar. caught spouse cheating with family friend?

    stated it was over. but now they want time to put their feet back on ground. says they love you, divorce isn't an option.been out of the house for a month. left because have 12 yr old wanted her to feel comfort. but when do start believing in their wordsWhen do you start believing the liar. caught spouse cheating with family friend?
    i am in a similar situation. lied to and cheated on for over a year, maybe 2 I don't know. but i don't know where the truth begins and lies end. it makes you question yourself and everything you thought about people. But if you look back, your instincts or something probably tried to tell you, but you didn't want to listen. I didn't. I believe your instincts tell you what to do, we just don't want to listen sometimes. I think its possible to rebuild after betrayal, i've heard a few stories. But most don't. Most people can't regain the trust back and then the betrayer doesn't truly change. Unless you both are willing to commit to change and work 200 % to find out what the root of the problem is, only then is there real hope for a happy future.When do you start believing the liar. caught spouse cheating with family friend?
    why are you saying ';they'; %26amp; ';their';??? as tho ';they'; are what you care about. You only care about one of them. And what is that about them needing time to put their feet on the ground? In other words...';they'; got caught....and are buying more time together. Don't be nieve and don't be a doormat for them to wipe their feet on. Stay gone and keep moving. Don't settle.
    you either forgive which will take time and therapy possibly or let them go. Children should not be the reason to stay, you are worth more than that. They will apologize to you but its up to you, consult a therapist, marriage counceling or self therapy.
    thats a tough decision. i ,personally, couldnt trust someone that did that to me ever again. unfortunately once trust has been lost its nearly impossible to regain, at least not without a lot of work and communication. do you think you could ever trust him/her again? maybe you should give it another chance for your childs sake but if it does happen again divorce would be the only option. good luck.
    ';too hard to trust a liar.';








    What kind of an asinine statement is that????





    Why would you want to in the first place if you know the person is a liar?








    Thanks...great advice Happy. You should become a marriage counselor with brilliant pearls of wisdom such as that.
    Betrayal is a hard thing to get past. You should go to marriage counseling together and work through this for your daughter. He's going to have to open himself up completely to you and be completely transparent. Is he willing to do that?
    i dont think i ever could. i'm not sure if people ever do. good luck.
    too hard to trust a liar.
    Hard to trust a cheater. In fact i dont think i ever could
    I never can. They are a liar... like they are white or a man or stupid. They wont change.

    Why is spouse so angry when I asked him a question?

    We reconciled after 3 yrs separation...He has done 100% turnaround and is really good to me. Previously he liked a girl and he had sent her emails and poems. I asked him why don't you send me poems, he said I wasn't that type, and now he is mad. Why should he be so angry?Why is spouse so angry when I asked him a question?
    Because you're bringing up old news. It sounds like he worked hard to turn himself around, and now you are whining about getting poems. Can't you just be happy that he turned himself around for you? Can't you be satisfied with what you already have?Why is spouse so angry when I asked him a question?
    Men are just unappreciative of what they have..she was someone different that he wasn't comfortable with so he was willing to go above and beyond and with you he doesn't feel he needs to do these things. I have no idea how to get him to do it but if you figure it out let me know..lol
    wow thats cold, are you not feminine? are you aggresive? a fema nazi? do you work on cars? maybe she was a girlie girl, i can't think of anything else.
    Because you're nagging him about writing you poems.
    i had similar problem! he was acting so great with his previous girl and he was just non romantic with me! we weren't married yet and i fed up and left him
    uh... why is he sending another girl poems if he's married to you?
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  • Why is spouse so angry when I asked him a question?

    We reconciled after 3 yrs separation...He has done 100% turnaround and is really good to me. Previously he liked a girl and he had sent her emails and poems. I asked him why don't you send me poems, he said I wasn't that type, and now he is mad. Why should he be so angry?Why is spouse so angry when I asked him a question?
    Because you're bringing up old news. It sounds like he worked hard to turn himself around, and now you are whining about getting poems. Can't you just be happy that he turned himself around for you? Can't you be satisfied with what you already have?Why is spouse so angry when I asked him a question?
    Men are just unappreciative of what they have..she was someone different that he wasn't comfortable with so he was willing to go above and beyond and with you he doesn't feel he needs to do these things. I have no idea how to get him to do it but if you figure it out let me know..lol
    wow thats cold, are you not feminine? are you aggresive? a fema nazi? do you work on cars? maybe she was a girlie girl, i can't think of anything else.
    Because you're nagging him about writing you poems.
    i had similar problem! he was acting so great with his previous girl and he was just non romantic with me! we weren't married yet and i fed up and left him
    uh... why is he sending another girl poems if he's married to you?

    What is the best way to wake your spouse up in the morning?

    Breakfast in bed or, a little slap and tickle?What is the best way to wake your spouse up in the morning?
    Nothin says good morning like a good f*ck ; )What is the best way to wake your spouse up in the morning?
    My wife would say ';with my d*ck'; is the best way I wake her up in the morning. She loves the c0ck!








    ADD- not to be a azzhole, but BearBeast(guy avatar pic) likes to ';sit on his face'; O_O
    Well, if you don't feel like having sex and he is very hard to wake up you could always get 2 lids to the biggest skillets you have and bang them together and scare the crap out of him. I bet that would get him up, lol.
    Lol, did you get beerfest for $5 at walmart this weekend too?





    Anyhow, the best way to wake me up is breakfast in bed and a mouth hug.
    I'm a brush-your-teeth-first kind of girl... Or else, eww... seriously.





    Nothing wrong with morning sex, but morning BREATH, is just not sexy. Period.
    from a distance. my wife is NOT the morning sex girl, much to my dismay. but she's so damned hot, I can't stay mad at her. now, brunch sex....that's what's up!!
    Get your baby who's an early riser (they all tend to be) and put baby on his/her belly. Baby will do the waking up. Your spouse will wake up with a smile.
    oh i know this one teacher lol my man likes a little kiss and a whole lot of sucking if you get what I mean!
    I like to wake him up by ticklin' his junk and then climbing on board for a ride.





    Sometimes though he has to pee and me getting on top of him makes him go WHOA
    Alarm on his side of the bed. Of course, unless its the weekend and then maybe the breakfast in bed.
    Holding the alarm clock next to his ear always works.
    An ice cube down the pajama bottoms always works.
    I dare Snarky to slap me to wake me up.
    Breakfast and BJ at the same time.
    Tickle her with your tongue.
    Nothing like waking up to a BJ.
    Beakfast in bed.
    BJ
    good loving
    put him to bed early
    sit on his face
    a good ******** seems to work for my hubby...just sayin

    What can a person do if thier ex-spouse kidnaps thier child to another country?

    I know a woman who's ex-husband is accused of molesting thier daughter. He is from iran, and keeps threatening to take thier child there.What can a person do if thier ex-spouse kidnaps thier child to another country?
    If the child is taken to Iran by her father there won't be much the child's mother can legally do. In Iran the father always has custody of the child and the child of an Iranian man is automatically an Iranian citizen. If the child does get kidnapped than there are some mercenary groups that will kidnap the child from Iran and bring him or her back to the mother, but it is illegal and very expensive.





    She may have to hide the child from the father while she seeks full custody in the country where they live now or the father may very well take the child.





    Betty Mahmoody is the foremost authority on this subject in the U.S. Her husband held her and thier daughter in Iran for eighteen months in 1984-86 before Betty managed to escape with her daughter by sneaking across the Iran/Turkey Border.What can a person do if thier ex-spouse kidnaps thier child to another country?
    I would hide the child from the father till he's in jail. If he makes it to Iran or any other Arab country then legally the mother will have no say in the matter since the father has all legal rights under Islamic Law in those countries. Also Iran doesn't even have diplomatic relations with the US so it wouldn't even be a concern for them.
    Call the police. That is the best thing to do if he does take the child. Technically, if she has custody or if they have joint custody then they both have to stay in the U.S. If he does go, the police will extradite him back here. For now, she should just avoid leaving her daughter alone with him. If molestation is an issue or is suspected, she should take her daughter to the hospital to get checked out and call the police.

    Can my spouse legally sign my name with my permission?

    My wife had a check she needed to deposit into our accout, and I wasn't around so she signed it.Can my spouse legally sign my name with my permission?
    Technically it is not legal but everybody does it at some point. If the check goes through and no one has an issue with it who is to care? And if some third party did a judge would go ';whatever';. No damage was done and your wife didn't ';steal'; anything. She put money in your account. So no charges.





    The answer that mentioned Power of Attorney reminds me to tell you. Every couple should have them. If something should happen to either of you or if one is incapacitated a POA can cut through a whole lot of red tape. And if you have kids you can have one drawn up for someone trusted (like one of your parents) that only kicks in if you are both incapacitated.Can my spouse legally sign my name with my permission?
    Yes, because for it to be considered forgery, some kind of fraud has to take place. It isn't fraudulent if your permission was provided.
    In most situations, yes. Your permission has to be based on knowing all the facts. If she asked if she could sign your name to a check for deposit, but instead cashed the check, that would not be legal.
    I would say yes to this one. My Mom has been endorsing my Dad's paycheck with his name for about 30 years. Of course, she has his approval. I don't believe it is a problem unless you notify the bank that it is a problem and then likely there will need to be a police report.
    I have signed my husbands name to deposit checks before, but you can also write on the back of the check for ';deposit only'; in place of the name. I have never been questioned about it... I also have a power of attorney for my husband to.
    In most cases, yes, this is perfectly legal. As thylawyer said, the permission must be specific.

    What are the legal rights of a person over the property of his or her spouse acquired before marriage?

    Suppose an unmarried person has exclusive legal rights of a property. After getting married, what are the legal rights of his or her spouse over that property?What are the legal rights of a person over the property of his or her spouse acquired before marriage?
    If its a community property state, the spouse is entitled to half. Thats what prenups are for. To protect assets aquired before the marriage.What are the legal rights of a person over the property of his or her spouse acquired before marriage?
    It depends on:





    * state and jurisdiction


    * Length of marriage


    * Any premarital agreements in writing
    None if you live in the U.S. unless the property has been converted during the marriage.





    EDITED TO CORRECT FALSE INFORMATION:





    It does NOT depend on the state. Premarital assets remain premarital in all 50 states unless converted during the marriage.





    It does NOT depend on the length of the marriage. The length of the marriage only comes into play in property settlement decisions with marital assets when used in conjunction with spousal support.





    And, IT DOES NOT depend on a pre-marital agreement. Such agreements have no force and effect on PRE-marriage assets unless specifically mentioned in the agreement. Then the person who allows this is an idiot.

    If someone pays child support because of their spouse if they get a divorce are they clear?

    Im fooling around with the a lady who is married. She is unhappy because her husband cheated and had another child. Now they are both paying child support. She wants to leave him for me. She isnt responsible for that bastard any more right?If someone pays child support because of their spouse if they get a divorce are they clear?
    Very immature to call a child who you know nothing about, a bastard. But no, once your girlfriend, his wife, divorces, then she will not be liable to pay any child support for the child.If someone pays child support because of their spouse if they get a divorce are they clear?
    She was never responsible for the other child and if she told you she is, she's not telling the truth.
    are you saying the wife was forced to pay child support because he husband cheated and had another child??? I never heard of that!!!





    I guess if she is not married to him anymore she is not responsible.... I guess.....
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  • US Citizen relocates to Canada due to her spouse being assigned by the US Government to a post in Canada?

    If a US Citizen relocates to Canada due to her spouse being assigned by the US Government to a post in Canada can she work online for a US company without having to register for WH Taxes in Canada?US Citizen relocates to Canada due to her spouse being assigned by the US Government to a post in Canada?
    Military has its own residency rules. Being stationed in Canada through the military doesn't change your residency. This even applies to military family's moving from state to state with in the US. They pay taxes to the state of their residense, which does not change each time you are restationed. The answer is no!

    What irritates you the most about your spouse?

    Please...take your time and answer by telling me about all the little things your spouse does that you can no longer stand.What irritates you the most about your spouse?
    Well I'm not married, but my boyfriend isn't as ambitious as I am and my savings is about 10 times what his is, and I'm 6 years younger. Sometimes I feel like I would be the ';provider'; if we got married.





    Oh, and when we fool around he never takes charge like a man. He's always hesitant to make a move because he wants to make sure it's ';okay first';. Not sexy.What irritates you the most about your spouse?
    Well, I'm not actually married but the one thing I cannot stand about my better half is mostly his family who are a bunch of loud mouth jesus freaks that think they are better than they really are...





    Can you please answer mine question, it's the one right before yours about ';one crazy future mother in law ;)
    when he says he'll do something I'll ask and never does! That makes me furious! Or when he complains about my family.....
    The fact that our sex life has changed dramatically since we've been together for a while now, and he seems lazy in the bedroom. .
    He sometimes uses derogatory words. Peeved me off in the beginning and still does, but it is the only flaw I have really found.
    He won't talk to me about his affair even though I have asked repeatedly for answers to our problems that lead to this.
    according to my ex... the fact I'm still breathing irritates her no end
    That she would never give me enough of herself
    After almost 14 years, my biggest complaint is the way he slurps his cereal. Really.
    I love my DH very much.....but his eating habit drive me nuts!!!! He gobbles down his food and smacks the whole time! A little courtesy please!!!!

    Does a male start dating sooner than a female after the death of a spouse?

    You can look at statistics but if you are trying to gauge yourself or someone you know.





    Yeah its really up to the person. Not everyone follow the statistics.Does a male start dating sooner than a female after the death of a spouse?
    It's usually the woman.Does a male start dating sooner than a female after the death of a spouse?
    No its usually a women


    Usually because they get lonely fasteer
    it depends on the girl or guy

    Does a bankruptcy filed singly by a spouse affect the other? Is it better to wait to get married until after?

    My boyfriend and I would like to get married, but his credit is awful and is in pretty deep with debt. If we get married before he files for bankruptcy will it negatively affect my (good) credit rating or me in any other way? Or is it better to wait until after, which is what I currently told him had to happen?Does a bankruptcy filed singly by a spouse affect the other? Is it better to wait to get married until after?
    The answer depends on the state where you live. If you live in a community debt state such as Texas, then generally each spouse is liable for the other鈥檚 debts. Therefore, if one spouse discharges debt through bankruptcy, the creditor may turn to the other spouse for payment.





    Talk with a lawyer first!Does a bankruptcy filed singly by a spouse affect the other? Is it better to wait to get married until after?
    It shouldn't effect it. I'm married, and after we got married, my wife did bankruptcy but I didn't. It wiped out the credit cards that she had acquired before we got married, and even a doctor bill afterward ... Basically everything that was just in her name. But it didn't effect my credit at all. Something to remember though, is if he buys a car or something, you'll probably have to do it in your name. You can include his income to get the loan even, but just do it in your name.





    Actually I'd probably have him do it before you get married But it's not that big of deal if he does it after.





    I'm in Ohio (if state laws vary). True ... Talk to a bankruptcy lawyer ... the initial counseltation is usually free and they would have the best advice.
    Your boyfriend's bankruptcy does not affect you. However, you may have joint debts in which his bankruptcy may result in continued liability to you on those joint debts.





    Your spouse's bankruptcy does not affect you either. Again, the consideration is joint debts. I don't have opinion about community property states becasue I don't practice in one.

    Does a male start dating sooner than a female after the death of a spouse?

    You can look at statistics but if you are trying to gauge yourself or someone you know.





    Yeah its really up to the person. Not everyone follow the statistics.Does a male start dating sooner than a female after the death of a spouse?
    It's usually the woman.Does a male start dating sooner than a female after the death of a spouse?
    No its usually a women


    Usually because they get lonely fasteer
    it depends on the girl or guy

    How should I go about bringing my spouse to the US?

    If she gets a spouse visa which takes a year to process, can she obtain a tourist visa and stay in the US in the meantime?





    I want to know the quickest way to avoid being apart.How should I go about bringing my spouse to the US?
    Where is she from, if from Canada she can go to the US as a visitor, my husband and I just did this, I am Canadian and came here as a visitor, we got married, then applied for permanent residence. We are still going through the process, it will cost a total of around 2000.00 for all the immigration applications and medical exam. Good luckHow should I go about bringing my spouse to the US?
    Legally, there's nothing to stop her from coming as a visitor while the spouse visa is being processed. It's not fraud. There's nothing fraudulent about it at all.





    However, in practical terms, it's highly unlikely she'll be allowed to do it. I assume you are a US citizen. The moment she sets foot on US soil she'd be free to file an I-485 to adjust her status based on her marriage to a US citizen and a visa number being immediately available. The whole idea of a spouse visa is to avoid this situation.





    So, yes, she can come as a tourist but it's very unlikely they'll let her.





    In the case that you are NOT a US citizen, the wait for a spouse visa is going to be about 5 and 1/2 years.
    The biggest problem with your idea of getting her a tourist visa is that it's highly unlikely it will be approved. She has a USC spouse and is considered an overstay risk, and you yourself have stated that she would come and wait while the visa was pending, which means she's not coming for a holiday, but to become a resident. If she lies about your existence in order to enter the US, it could well come back to haunt you when you apply for her, not to mention she could face removal at any time.





    File the I-130, and once you have the receipt in hand, file for I-29F (K3 - spousal visa). It probably will take about a year, but thousands of us spend a year or more apart from our spouses while going through this process and live to tell the tale. It's something we have to do to prepare for our futures. If your marriage is strong and you truly love each other, in the end, the time apart will be a mere blip.
    What country is she from? What state are you in? Regardless of which temporary option you choose, she will have to leave and do the interview and medical checkup. You can file an I-129F as soon as you get the reciept from the spousal visa. I know it says for fiance, etc, but you can file it for a spouse and it cuts the waiting time in half. If she is from a country with a visa waiver program she can come here for 2 months, no paper work required and then go home, just keep doing that until the process is over, but she won't be able to work and that could be too costly for you. USCIS.gov
    No. What you are proposing is called visa fraud. She would be deported and banned from the US for a minimum of 10 years. Your spousal visa would be denied and you would have to wait until her ban is up to apply again. You have to wait or live there if circumstances allow.
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  • What is the registration cost for including spouse name in the sale deed in bangalore?

    you have to check up only with the concerned registrar.

    I live in CA (community property state) and I'm filing MFS. Does my spouse have to file if she had no income?

    ThanksI live in CA (community property state) and I'm filing MFS. Does my spouse have to file if she had no income?
    Yes, you both must file since you are in a CP state. Each of you would claim half of your income and half of the withholdings on the separate returns even though you are the one who earned it.





    Because of the way that CA law works on debt recovery this is probably the only way that you can preserve any of your refund. Filing injured spouse with a joint return may well result in the entire refund being applied to the back child support. CA law provides that creditors can recover debts that existed prior to the marriage through community income, effectively negating the benefit of the injured spouse claim.I live in CA (community property state) and I'm filing MFS. Does my spouse have to file if she had no income?
    If you had income, you spouse had income--half of your earnings.
    If you lived together, you put half the income (and half the withholding) on each MFS return.

    What are my rights as a military spouse?

    My husband is a marine and after three years of marriage he is filing for a legal separation because he doesn't want to married anymore. He is doing all of the paperwork and I have no idea of what is going on and I feel that he may try to get over on me because I don't know what the process is. So I if anybody can key me in on what my right are please let me know.


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    Thanks!What are my rights as a military spouse?
    I am a military spouse as well. I highly suggest you go to the Legal office. They can help you. Let them know of the situation and find out everything you can. First of all do you have any children together? You said that you've been married for only 3yrs. This is a short time so you might not get to much. You should call the legal office. Then you should go to the family service department. They can tell you what you are entitled too. Like I said it might not be much but you never know until you ask for yourself. Hang in there. You will be ok.What are my rights as a military spouse?
    The military does not recognize ';legal separation';. You are either Married, Divorced, or Single. In other words, he has an obligation to provide support to you until there is a divorce decree. At a minimum, you are entitled to the amount of his Basic Allowance for Housing (BAH) each month. Additionally, you do not lose your medical or other benefits until you are officially divorced. Your children will not lose any benefits, divorced or not. Stop by the base legal office to get more information.
    I have never been a spouse, but I have been a soldier. You need to go to your legal office and get someone to represent you as well. Try talking to your FRG leader or even ACS they can have some kind of support to help you thru this. Dont let your husband do all the paperwork, he is going to screw you over
    the legal office on base will probably not help you, not if hes already been there. ';conflict of interest';. hire a good attorney, you'll be fine.


    with just 3 years there isnt much to ';get over'; on you any way.

    How can I get taxes filed if spouse won't cooperate?

    Here is the situation....My spouse and I are separated and I want to file married-separate. She wants to file jointly. I refuse to file jointly with her due to the fear that I will not receive my share of our return (she's that deceiving) . Here is the problem....she will not give me her social security number, which is information that I need in order to file separate. Tells me that if I don't file jointly, then I won't be filing. Any ideas on what avenue I can take to get my taxes filed separate? Thanks in advance for any replies.How can I get taxes filed if spouse won't cooperate?
    get her social security number off of last years return. call IRS now and have them mailed to you if you have no copy. file taxes as planed. tell her she's on her own now.How can I get taxes filed if spouse won't cooperate?
    This year, a joint refund can be split between two accounts for direct deposit, or even three. You'd use form 8888 for that.





    If you still prefer to file separately, do you have any old tax returns or anything else that would have her social security number on it? If not, I'd call the IRS and tell them what's happening - they should be able to advise you on how to file legally if you don't have her social security number. If you filed joint in earlier years, you can get a transcript of the earlier tax return from the IRS, and that should have the numbers you need. It's free but will take a few weeks.





    If all else fails, fill out your return and file it with all the required info except her social security number, and enclose a note explaining why you didn't enter it. You can't file electronically if you do that, but would have to do a paper return by mail.





    Good luck.
    You can always look at previuos tax returns, her social security number will be on them, you could also look at any resumes she may have it may be on there, Or you could also file head of household if your state allows it, Good Luck.
    Tell her you'll file jointly. Then get it direct deposited into your bank account and write her a check for 50% of it when it comes in. If that isn't an option, talk to an accountant about what you can do.
    e-file jointly. You'll get a bigger refund in total anyway. Decide how to split the refund and have each portion sent directly to your own bank accounts. There's a new Form 8888 letting you split the refund to up to 3 bank accounts.

    My spouse is trying to end alimony payments. What can I do to prevent the action?

    I have been sick for about 1 year, I live in another state and I have the children 100% of the time do to violence from my ex spouse ( court ordered). My spouse hold all the assets. Married for 18 years. His argument is he shouldn't have to pay money I should work and he should also be able to reduce support( all teenagers).My spouse is trying to end alimony payments. What can I do to prevent the action?
    It' not up to him it's up to the judge he decides Besides I think it takes more money to raise teenagersMy spouse is trying to end alimony payments. What can I do to prevent the action?
    Only a judge may modify the support terms of a divorce decree. If your ex takes it upon himself to reduce court ordered payments, you have very strong grounds to take him back to court for nonpayment of court ordered support.
    well if he dont get to see the kids then he shouldnt have to pay for them and if you cant get a job then get on ssi he shouldnt have to pay for you any more you are no longer together
    Well unless you are paralized from the neck down , They shouldnt take your payments ...You sound like a freeloader. You should work ...
    How did he end up with 100% of the assets? Usually that's split 50/50 in a divorce.
    Take it to court

    How different was your relationship with your spouse when you were first smitten and when you are married?

    How different was your relationship with your spouse when you were first smitten and dating, and now when you have been married for a while?








    More polite or less so? More kind or less so? Go out less? Spend more or less time together? More open or less? More fun? Treat each other same? More open? More tired or the same? Different character? More busy? Love each other more? Fight more? Etc. How different was your relationship with your spouse when you were first smitten and when you are married?
    Some things are the same and some things are different. The only thing that really made a difference in our marriage was his son (i'm not saying in a bad way) when we were dating his son wasn't really in the picture because his son was always with a babysitter or sleeping, I really didn't start playing mommy card until we were married. The baby's real mother isn't in his life so for the past year I have been his mother-when we first got married my husband kind of laid the load on me to mostly be the one to take care of his son-which became a huge problem. Since we got married to save money there are no more babysitters- in the beginning when we went out to the public my husband gave his son to me to watch while he freely ran around the store. During family events my husband gave his son to me while he mingled around with everyone. And for the longest time my husband would sleep in late and I was the one who was up early in the morning until mid-day with his son. And then the biggest problem we had was discipline because my husband (and still today) does not bring authority to his son and I seem to be the one that is. If I do correct his son my husband will yell at me in front of his son and basically make me look like a jackass but when his son is out of control he runs to me to handle the situation...this may have been more theory for me then answering your question, but that was the only difference from us dating to us being married. We kind of have fixed the whole problem of him giving me the hundred percent responsibility of raising (whom I consider) my son...but we are still going through the disapline issue.How different was your relationship with your spouse when you were first smitten and when you are married?
    My husband and I have fallen more deeply in love the longer we have been married. We get along better too, we both had some kinks to work out when we were first married. We chose not to live together prior to marriage so that took some adjusting for about the first year I would say. Now we are full of laughter and very happy together. We hardly ever fight anymore, only a small spat on a rare occasion. It's a very peaceful and fun marriage.
    I really like that my spouse and I have grown in love and respect for each other as the years progress. It is actually pretty cool. We we shared a deep passion for each other when we first met. The ';getting to know you phase'; of our relationship was pretty rocky - managing the change from single to married. Once we got all the kinks worked out, the relationship has helped us to become better people.
    actually, our relationship sucked the first 3 years. it has gotten much better as time has gone by. when we fight, it is very intense, but that is only because we have come to realize we feel what we feel for each other with such strong passion





    we have more fun together now, talk about more stuff now...not everything, but more...we are busy, we've had 5 kids, but we make sure to make the time for each other, whereas before, we didn't, and we started to grow apart. we are strong now...and i wouldn't want that to change
    well i would say i am less ';smitten';. the honeymoon stage is definitely over. we still go out on dates and spend as much time together as we can, but we also have nights where we go out on our own w/ our own friends. definitely more busy now that we have an 18 month old son. the love is the same, maybe i love him more now because i know him even better than before.
    fight more...........


    less kind............


    never go out .................


    more time apart..............


    less fun.......................


    treat each other worse...........





    DIFFERENT CHARACTER FOR SURE





    my marriage is going down hill !!!!!!!!!!!! :(



    More polite


    More Kind


    Go out more


    More time


    More fun





    Its better when both people work on the relationship.



    It's pretty much the same, we respect each other and always have.
    Better.


    Now I can fart.
    Well, I'm more smitten with him now than when we started going out. We're much closer.
    It isn't as intense now as it was then but it has grown into much more. I wouldn't trade the journey for the world.
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  • What is the process of bringing a spouse from pakistan to UK? please tell me the detail?

    five months backi married in pakistan and now want to call her to Uk central london what is the process of applying the visa..will she apply or i have to apply from here...please answer me in detail.What is the process of bringing a spouse from pakistan to UK? please tell me the detail?
    The process is not as difficult as you would think but you need to remember that the marriage visa requirements are being looked over and may change in the very near future for instance the age limit at the moment is that both spouses are 18 this will rise to 21 in the near future.





    What you need is a full time job, atleast 6 months worth of pay slips and your bank account statements showing how much money is coming in and how much you have, you need to have 3000+ GBP.





    You and your spouse both have to be atleast 18.





    You will have to apply here and she will be notified if the application was approved or not. The reason for applications to be approved you need the above requirements atleast. If the application has been denied you can appeal but you will need to meet the conditions they have set.





    Normally she will be notified with 4-6 weeks and she will have about 4-5 weeks to leave pakistan and arrive in the uk, she will also need to undergo a entry clearance test at the london airport.





    For more and detailed information check out this site it pretty much provides all the details you need.





    http://www.workpermit.com/uk/marriage.htm

    Ive bad credit & fiances is great. Can creditors put lien on property of my spouse once we are married?

    We want to make sure all of his assets and credit remains safe. Say if he dies can they at that time seize the proprty and house? All of my bad credit will be off record in like 2-3 yrs. My debt is only 3 credit cards doctors and hospitals and no more than 12k owed.Ive bad credit %26amp; fiances is great. Can creditors put lien on property of my spouse once we are married?
    His assets and credit will remain safe as long as you are not jointly on any accounts with him. Until your credit issues are straightened out, don't purchase anything together. Don't open any accounts together. Keep all of your finances, including bank accounts, separate.Ive bad credit %26amp; fiances is great. Can creditors put lien on property of my spouse once we are married?
    Anything solely in his name from before the marriage is protected. However, if he dies and you are the beneficiary of the estate, it becomes your property and subject to attachment by your creditors. Also any property you acquire jointly after marriage is open to your creditors.
    If you keep your finances separate, there should be no issue. However, if you live in a community property state, such as CA, any debts after you married are shared by both spouses. It would be a good idea to get your credit in order before you marry, if at all possible.
    no not unless your name is on any of his stuff and/or if you co signed with him why not just file bankruptcy you can just file on yourself even if your married.
    If the debts are in your name only, they can lien any property that has your name on it (sole or joint owner). If the property is solely in her name, she should be OK.

    Would you eat your best friend or spouse if you were stuck on a mountain with no food?

    Assuming they died from the cold already.Would you eat your best friend or spouse if you were stuck on a mountain with no food?
    Yes. I like to survive no matter what.Would you eat your best friend or spouse if you were stuck on a mountain with no food?
    No way. I'd rather jump off the mountain.
    Uh, I don't think so. I would look around for something like berries, twigs etc. I think trying to force myself to eat human flesh would make me upchuck. I hope I never have to find out.
    If you are stuck on a mountain,eating


    your best friend/spouse to stay alive


    just prolongs the agony,the pain,and


    the wait.There is no guaranty that help


    will arrive in time - Curl up beside


    your mate,and meet your maker.


    My answer is NO. It takes a strong


    Stomach to slice up someone, to eat


    the raw flesh - no heat no fire?
    No thats horrible i wouldn't be able to look at pictures of them ever knowing i ate them
    Assuming they were already dead, yes I would if it would keep me alive and give me hope. I think they would want me to as I would want them to eat me if the situation was reversed.
    NO I will not eat any HUMAN flesh. I would pray to God to provide me with something to eat.
    Absolutely.





    I think they would want us to, if it meant our survival.
    Yeah i will eat he or she and i will write a cookbook about it.By the way, if my cook book is famous i will give some money for the homeless and Red Cross.You probably ask why i want to eat him or her.The answer is to be alive and i can come out telling the world about my crazy life story.
    Do we have to be stuck on a mountain with no food? How about if we're just stuck in traffic with no breakfast.
    To survive I probably would...
    I would like to think I wouldn't, but in severe cicumstances your body is willed to survive (see the movie Alive). I really don't know.
    no, just die together
    hope for some vegetation i could eat!
    No. In my area the mountains are covered with forest. I could survive from roots, berries, and edible greens.
    Depends on how long I was stuck there and what else was around...
    Lol...Sure...make Chuck Norris ask the ridculous questions.
    only if i had remembered my pocket sized soy sauce bottle - i love that stuff!!!
    Never.I would just have to accept my fate of freezing myself and hoping it would come soon.
    My best friend. My spouse is all bones and skin.
    ill eat the grass better than eat her a s s.
    I always eat my girlfriend ;) But seriously I wouldn't i would let them survive besides i have lived my life as well as I could.

    Could you please explain me how it works to buy a house with your spouse?

    Is there one mortgage or 2?


    If there is only one mortgage, do each of the spouses have to pay half of the mortgage? What if one of the spouses makes much much more money than the other?





    What happens if the couple splits? Who can stay in the house, what happens?Could you please explain me how it works to buy a house with your spouse?
    Are you moving in with your boyfriend or buying a house with your spouse?





    There is one mortgage. It doesn't have to be in both names and in many cases, it isn't. The financial arrangements on who pays for what is of no concern to the lender, they just want their check each month. If one spouse makes much more than the other, the expenses should be divided accordingly.





    If the couple splits, who stays in the house or what happens depends on whether there was a pre-nuptial agreement or how the divorce attorneys settle this.Could you please explain me how it works to buy a house with your spouse?
    A big part of divorce proceedings is the legal splitting of ownership of all property. If you name is not on the title you are not an owner at all. Marriage gives you some dower rights to the assets.
    Normally, couples buy jointly as joint tenants. Both names are on the deed and the mortgage. Both are equally responsible for paying the mortgage regardless of relative income.





    Who contributes how much toward the mortgage is up to the couple to decide. I won't even try to get into the divorce thing.
    If a married couple buys a house together..there is one mortgage. Most couples have a joint bank account and bills get paid through at joint bank account. I guess some couples split the payments..it's up to them. If the couple splits, a few things can happen. Sometimes one spouse will buy the other one out, sometimes one spouse just gives the other spouse the house and sometimes the property has to be divided.
    Still working that gold digger angle, I see.
    It's one mortgage that is in both of your names, at least in Colorado that's they way it works. If the couple splits, then that would be a matter for the courts to decide.

    Do you know anyone who has had an affair with their son or daughters spouse?

    I'd never though anyone could be so low but I have hear of it.Do you know anyone who has had an affair with their son or daughters spouse?
    Only on cable tv...Do you know anyone who has had an affair with their son or daughters spouse?
    Yes I do but that whole family is screwed up anyhow!
    I have heard of it ,but don't know of anyone personal. That is sad.
    No. That would be very wrong to do!

    What form do I need to submit if I currently live in the UK on HSMP and want to swich to spouse visa?

    I'm a US citizen and just got married to a UK national and now want to swich from an HSMP visa to a spouse visa. It looks like I need to submit form FLR (M) but I want to make sure that's the right one. Can someone please advise?What form do I need to submit if I currently live in the UK on HSMP and want to swich to spouse visa?
    yeah im sure that you are right that should give you a 2 year married visa after that you should be able to claim for indefinte leave to remain will cost you about 拢495 for a flr(m) check the www.homeoffice.gov.uk good luckWhat form do I need to submit if I currently live in the UK on HSMP and want to swich to spouse visa?
    Wouldn't it be better to just continue on the HSMP Visa extension? This would safe guard you against any eventuality in future with respect to your marriage and you will not have nasty surprises (for instances having to leave the country)
    pls call this no. and find out 0870 606 7766.
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  • Is it legal for a Green Card holder to live separately from his/her spouse without telling Immigration?

    Especially if that Green Card holder has no intentions of moving back in with his/her spouse?Is it legal for a Green Card holder to live separately from his/her spouse without telling Immigration?
    if you provide a scenario, the least you can do is provide enough details to make an informed decision





    - how did that resident get the green card?


    - how long were they married?


    - are there other factors affecting the separation?Is it legal for a Green Card holder to live separately from his/her spouse without telling Immigration?
    You have an obligation to inform USCIS of any change of address within 10 days of moving. You don't need to tell them if you are not with your spouse.


    If you have a conditional green card (2 years) you will need proof that you were genuinely married so that you can lift the conditions on your residency without your USC spouse. Once you have a 10 year green card you will have to wait an extra 2 years before you can apply for citizenship.
    It depends on what kind of greencard you have (fiance visa or 10 year green card.) If its the first, your spouse wont ask for your renewal at the end of the 2 years, making you go back to your country of origin.
    Looks like you just get married for green card and that is illegal.

    In New Jersey, does a spouse of 20 years get significantly more alimony than a spouse of 18 years?

    I heard there is a higher tier for marriages above 20 years.In New Jersey, does a spouse of 20 years get significantly more alimony than a spouse of 18 years?
    None at all as most women have their own incomes these days.


    \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\In New Jersey, does a spouse of 20 years get significantly more alimony than a spouse of 18 years?
    A long tern marriage is over 10 years in NJ...so no, I don't think it matters. But if there are other factors, ir can. A disable spouse can collect lifetime alimony, versus one who is able to work,











    Good luck.
    Consult a lawyer for this
    I Know for a fact that doesn't matter unless your income jumped in the last 2 years ! from salem n j
    i did not get anything...but he has the kids

    If it is a fact that your spouse cheated and you know who with?

    If your spouse had a affair and you are still together would you have second thoughts about oral sex? I asked this question earlier,but I want a response from a new ordinance !If it is a fact that your spouse cheated and you know who with?
    Well it sounds like you have forgiven her/him or you are atleast trying to work things out purely by the fact you are even asking this question to begin with. So male or female, whom ever your spouse is, you can have safe oral sex. There are all kinds of products you can use, flavored condoms,(for men) flavored wrap(for women)so you can give oral sex and have safe intercourse vaginal or anal. But for the health of your spouse/lover they should have some tests done for their own health. Did you ask if hey had safe sex with who it was they cheated on you with? Is this a question about worries of possibly getting an STD or is this a punishment? If you've forgiven them, regardless of all the details, for the sake of healing your heart, and your feelings, maybe you should put off sex in any many for the tme being until things have smooted over. Best of luck to you.If it is a fact that your spouse cheated and you know who with?
    Hey, you asked for answers to the same question again and requested from a new ordinance. I'm not giving you a speech. I gave you just what you asked for.

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    Never mind oral, vaginal, anal, climbing the trees sex, and so forth. I would not have a first thought to begin with, as a matter of fact I would not be together with him. Now you got me mad! (just because your question brought back memories of a very deceitful marriage when I caught myself standing in front of his sleeping, naked body with a pair of scissors on my hands) No, I did not cut them off, I just grabbed the car keys and left him to this day.
    Definately!! I would not even have sex with him at all. It would be hard but I would leave as fast as I could, and that would be that. Especially with oral you might know who the person is but you don't know what went on with them and your girl. Plus who they been with. Yuck!!!
    If my wife cheated with any one her tuchus would be out the door before you could say '; Holy asscrackers batman!'; Once a cheat always a cheat!!
    You should find yourself a new partner cause if she cheated once she is bout to cheat again and yeah think twice on oral sex.
    I wouldn't have second thoughts at all. I would not want to have sex with her at all. I'd be dumping her like a sack of garbage.
    I would have second, third and fourth thoughts about any sex. I would send his a$$ off for a full round of tests before any thing went down if you know what I mean.
    I'd have 2nd thoughts about any sex, oral or any other way. No telling where that thing has been.
    i wouldn't give them oral after they cheated.. but not cause of diseases, CAUSE THEY DONT DESERVE IT!
    if it was a one time thing he did drunk -yes i could get over it, but a relationship is another story
    Yes I would
    Yes i would it be like su...ing someone c.......... it be nasty.
    R u serious!? Your fine with that!? dump the whore, she wont get a dime cuz she cheated.

    Monday, December 28, 2009

    Do you sometimes cook with ready mix (packaged) and present to your guest or spouse as home-cooked or fresh?

    http://mixandcook.com is a website promoting recipes using instant mixes. How do you feel about that?Do you sometimes cook with ready mix (packaged) and present to your guest or spouse as home-cooked or fresh?
    You'd like the show ';Semi Homemade'; with Sandra Lee, on Food Network...... If I'm using a mix (rarely), I don't lie and say it's homemade:) But, some things are just easier to make with mixes (bouillion, pie crusts, filo/puff pastry dough - to name a few)Do you sometimes cook with ready mix (packaged) and present to your guest or spouse as home-cooked or fresh?
    In the professional kitchen this is called fast scratch, so you could get away with that, just add one or two fresh ingredients and you'll be fine
    I'm not above that, thanks for giving the link. I do however try to stay away from alot of prepackaged foods because of sodium and preservatives
    Hey you did make it at home technically it's just not made from scratch!
    I always serve good food-no matter if some of it comes from a can or out of a box. Its the end result that matters.

    Is it ok to cheat on your spouse for political gain?

    Apperntly, some people think it does not matter that Slick Willy cheated on his wifey! And she seems to not care! How do I tell my 17 year old daughter, and 13 year old son that only presidents are allowed to cheat on thier spouse, but you can't. If they can not keep the vows of marraige, how can they keep the vow of office?? Any idiot diehard democrat will support them, I may be a registerd Republican, but I vote for who I think is best. Republican OR democrat! Wake up America!!!!





    P.S. Boycott Hersheys and head to the Mexican border with your illeagle firearms to shoot illeagle aliens! LOL.Is it ok to cheat on your spouse for political gain?
    Most Democrats and Republicans, aside for Ron Paul, are merely puppets for the owners of the Federal Reserve. There are reasons that America is in the position it's in economically, financially and politically. The Republicans and the Democrats are in bed with the owners of the Federal Reserve and their 24-point political agenda for America.





    You're absolutely right when you say Wake Up America!Is it ok to cheat on your spouse for political gain?
    no
    It's not OK to cheat on your wife. I do believe however, that him cheating was between him and his wife and should not have been made public. We need to pick people to run this country based on whether or not they can handle the job and moral values. If they have an issue once in office that does not affect the country such as cheating on a spouse then it's between them. Teach your kids that it's never OK to cheat on someone, it's wrong. If you teach them well, it won't matter what Clinton did.
    I'm a college professor so it's hard for me to be brief, but





    NO!! It's never OK to cheat on your wife.
    no never. It sounds like the candidate for you is Mitt Romney, only one of the front runner candidates to still be married to his first wife.
    In my opinion, it is never ok to cheat on your spouse for any reason. Period.
    Cheating on your spouse is wrong regardless...let your kids know that these two people are definitely not people to look up to, but rather to learn from their faults and become better people.
    I am more concerned with politicians cheating on US!
    There's something called an open marriage where both parties agree to have a relationship sometimes involving one or multiple parties. Who are you to say what works best for other people? Regardless being Married doesn't make you a better person, you proved my point. You can go ahead and go to the ';Mexican border with your illeagle firearms.'; But I assure you it would be a lot more beneficial to learn 3rd grade English.
    In my opinion, a President's sex life is not only none of our business, but it does not reflect his capability as a President.





    Frankly, I'd be surprised if we could determine with any certainty a President that DIDN'T cheat on his wife. Many President's were notorious womanisers.





    As far as explaining it to your children...It shouldn't be any harder than explaining why it's wrong to steal even though CEOs do it.
    Good logic here. Infidelity is wrong, but murder is cool. Seriously, it's called spell check and all you have to do is click the button. It's not that hard. Though, I guess I shouldn't hold such high expectations of someone who is promoting murder.





    You are probably one of those ';stop murdering unborn babies'; types aren't you? Then you go and call for the murder of illegal (notice the spelling) immigrants.





    Maybe if you ate a little more chocolate you wouldn't be so angry.
    You are more important than the 21st CENTURY POP CULTURE! You're working from written text; the 10 COMMANDMENTS! REFER to that being violated as going against common dignity! Religion is only there to deal with humanity and some people like to REBEL AGAINST DIGNITY!Democrats have a problem, Republicans should not! Republicans are not PALTROONS; DEMOCRATS ARE!
    How did he or any other politician cheat on their spouse for political gain?





    I don't think it's right to cheat, but I don't understand how there is political gain out of it. Usually they have to scramble to get a P.R. person for damage control when a scandal arises.

    How do you share expenses with your spouse?

    My husband earns 3 times my salary but he doesn't want to contribute towards the bills. He uses his money for unnecessary stuff.If i ask him for money he will come up with stories.He's so stingy. pls help me.Am so stressed out.


    1 minute ago - 3 days left to answerHow do you share expenses with your spouse?
    That's ridiculous, if the bills are in your name cancel them (utilities I mean), if they are in his name, just stop paying them. that means your utilities will be shut off, go stay with family until he wakes up and starts taking care of his responsibilities. Obviously take the kids with you if you have them.





    I still pay 100% of my ex wife's house bills; Mortgage, utilities, etc... We have 3 kids together and she couldn't do it on her own





    EDIT: Advice to everyone reading; Don't let one or the other person be completely responsible for the bills, (I don't mean just money wise, I mean don't let one person be the ';house bookeeper';). Both people need to know what is going on with the finances at all times. Have a weekly or bi-weekly meeting with your spouse to discuss the budget. Trust me on this, don't just assume the other one has it under control, know where your money is going. He/She might not be as good with finances as you thinkHow do you share expenses with your spouse?
    Uhm, well my husband and I have a joined account and all our cash flow goes in an out of that account.


    At the moment he earns more but when I finish school I should be earning more and we shall still pay for everything together.





    I am not sure what you can do. Maybe you could make a budget to show him how you pay for more even though you are earning less.. he might see sense then?
    my husband and i pay the bills together. well I lost my job and you know no jobs in Michigan. i babysit a 4 yr old so what little i make goes for gas in the cars and food. we put our money together. a marriage is 50/50. I used to be married to some one like that.. he needs to stop being a jerk and start helping you . why don't you 2 have one account that way he has to put money into it?
    You really need to sit down and discuss this situation with him. If he can't help pay the bills and living expenses, then I would probably think about my marriage to him. If he is not willing to help out, then I would probably pack my bags and leave the bills for him.
    Create a joint account and pay bills out of that, that way you will feel that he is contributing in a useful way and he probably will feel that it is your money being used as well not just 100% from one or the other.
    What the heck you husband wont pay the bill you have got to be kidding me that's nuts. Why the hell not? he needs to help out...





    If i were you i would divorce him and make him pay alimony then for sure he will be contributing BIG TIME
    Tell to to get the heck out and enjoy paying alimony and child support.
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