Saturday, January 9, 2010

How can I save on heating costs when my spouse is at work and my babies and i are always home?

How lucky you are to stay home with your babies. :) Try keeping the heater at 65 and wear more clothes. Also create a warm room by shutting the vents and doors to rooms you aren't using.How can I save on heating costs when my spouse is at work and my babies and i are always home?
get a space heaterHow can I save on heating costs when my spouse is at work and my babies and i are always home?
This is what I do. During the day I turn down the heat put on extra clothing and/or my robe. On your babies put socks on them long pants and a under shirt and then another shirt. the sun keeps the house warmer in the day and @ night turn the heat up say after the sun goes down. After putting the kids to bed and after you have had your bath or shower trun the heat down put extra blankets on you and the kids and everyone will be warm threw the night. I have done this for years. When you go outside in the cold wheater it doesn't seem to be as cold as it is because you are not used to the 80 degree heat in your house. My kids can stay outside longer than other kids because of this.


You may also want to get curtains that are heavy for your windows that the air maybe coming in. sometimes closing other doors in the house while you are in the main part helps keep the house warmer. I hope this helps you. Good luck
If you put your temp on around 68 and turn the fans on low speed, it will circulate the warm air around the room, and save on your heating bill quite a bit. My wife and I did it this winter and have saved about 45-60 bucks a month...
Insulate your room.


Close curtains when you don't need day light.


Close doors and windows tightly.


Seal leakages around doors/windows.


Turn off heater during cooking time.


Dress warm.


Go out more and turn off heater.


Open doors/windows for a while around 3pm if outside temperature is higher to circulate warm air in.
warm colthes, socks, slippers, open curtians and blinds let sun in during the day keep heater on 68. if you have a drafty house put up plastic on windows. I live in a horribly insulated house. we were warm pajamas slippers alll that stuff. Also depending on how big your house is after baking leave the oven door cracked open a bit to let heat out . this will help warm too. also if you have carpeted floors this helps keep heat. IF not and have hardwood may want to lay area rug down on floor to help warm the kids when they are playin on the floor. best of luck!
Get a 7 day programable thermostat and set it such that it is 60 degrees when everyone is out of the house and 68 degrees when everyone is in the house. You can also set the temp to 65 during the night when everyone is sleeping and under the covers. That will due for the winter.
Keep windows/doors closed. Keep the furnace about 68 %26amp; put on warmer clothes.
put babies in pants an dlong sleeve jumpers/onsies. wear a long sleeve shirt and cover up witha blanket when not moving around the house. buy a space heater and block of rooms you dont use much (upstairs, kicthen, extra bedrooms etc) keep temp about 70, thats pretty comfortable without adding a lot fo extra clothes. keep windows and doors shut, turn off lights, turn water heater down. put extra blanketson thebed and dress yourself and the kids a little warmer...turn the heat down to about 68 and sleep under a heating blanket. oen last one, its kind of wierd but it helps sometimes.


if you have a dryer- esp a fullsize one, pull the silver vent hose off the back and when you dry your clothes, the heat will come out into the house and keep at least one room warmer...jsut watch out for slick spots near the dryer since the heat condenses on the floor.


there are all kinds of ways you can save on heat. when you save on heat you can save on other bills too! get your kids into the action an dmake it fun for them!

Does any one have sample invitation letter for inviting spouse for Germany?

Hi I need to apply dependent visa for my wife who is in india, does any one have the sample invitation letter to be submitted for german dependent visa.Please let me know the format and subject.Does any one have sample invitation letter for inviting spouse for Germany?
You can find a sample letter at this website


http://www.invitationletter.net/

Does anyone work second shift? (3pm-11:30pm) How do you deal with not seeing your spouse as often?

How do you like working this shift? I start a job tomorrow on this shift and just wanted some feedback on how people like it. Thanks!Does anyone work second shift? (3pm-11:30pm) How do you deal with not seeing your spouse as often?
It is great! The time you do spend together is that much better because you are not annoying each other everyday. The things we do together now is more planned out also! No more laying on the couch saying ';what do you want to do';! You look forward to time with your spouse and you miss them more! That is always healthy for a relationship.Does anyone work second shift? (3pm-11:30pm) How do you deal with not seeing your spouse as often?
should work out just fine..........





marriages aren't the time together but the quality spent.





military spends much time apart and survives...and police and sports and tousands of others.





whats 8 hrs ?
You may just find that the two of you are arguing less, missing each other more and respecting each other more. You also might find that you value the time you do have together more than ever! That's what happened to me and I know many others who feel the same way. This could really be a blessing.

Does my BAH depend on the location of my spouse or where I am stationed?

I just finished tech school, and am going to my first duty station in oklahoma. My spouse lives in Hawaii and we have an apartment. My spouse is still in college and can't move with me to Oklahoma yet. Do I get BAH for where my spouse is located, or do I get BAH for my location?Does my BAH depend on the location of my spouse or where I am stationed?
You will get BAH on where you are stationed. Since your wife could accompany you but is choosing not to, the military does not have to pay BAH bases on her location. Additionally, you need to talk to your command because there is a very real possibility of not getting full BAH for your location in OK. Since her staying behind is voluntary you may be ordered into dorms. At that point, the military will keep an amount equal to single rate BAH for your rank and duty location to ';pay'; for your dorm room. You would get the differential BAH..basically the amount left after they deduct single rate BAH from your check. It is generally only going to be a couple hundred dollars a month. Or, since you are married, they may have you live off base...meaning you would be using a single BAH to try and pay the costs of supporting two seperate apartments. My suggestion would be for your spouse to finish this semester..it's almost over anyway...and then move with you and transfer to a school in OK. It is tough for military members with higher rank to support two locations on a single rate. The fact that one is located in one of the most exspesive areas while you are stationed in an area with a more moderate cost of living is going to make it even harder financially. Add in the stress it will cause the relationship..you will be lucky to be able to get leave to go home once or twice a year...and most long term military will tell you it will make a challanging first few years in the service even harder.Does my BAH depend on the location of my spouse or where I am stationed?
You are considered a Geographical bachelor.





The Army is under no obligation to grant you BAH based on your wife's location if you are granted accompanied orders.





If you register as a Geographical Bachelor and your PDS is in the Continental US, gets BAH based on your PDS. You can request a waiver to get BAH based on your location if he can show extenuating circumstances, which your wife's degree may well qualify for.





But I wouldn't hold your breath. Is her major not offered in Oklahoma? How long does she have left?
As you have accompanied orders, the BAH will be based on where you are stationed. It doesn't matter if she is there or not. You will either have to stay out in town and support both places on the one BAH or live in barracks and sacrifice the BAH.





you will also not get Family Separation as this a voluntary separation.
Oklahoma. since you have accompanied orders you get BAH based on your duty station Zip code regardless of where she chooses to reside.


you can ask for an exception to policy. since you are wanting HI BAH.. expect it will be denied.
If you are the only one in the service then, yes it depends on where you will be station for the BAH. Which I can tell you, more than likely, you will get less in Oklahoma compared to Hawaii. Good luck
Where you are located.
You'll get BAH for where your stationed.

What would you do if you found out your spouse murdered his/her previous partners?

Would you stay? Let's say there were at least 6.What would you do if you found out your spouse murdered his/her previous partners?
i know all of his, but yes i would stay. simply put i have had a few ex's commit suicide and after the 3rd one people start to look at you funny like you did it, when in fact i just had a thing for men with low self esteem when i was in my late teens. luckily that is over and i met a good guy with self esteem and married him.What would you do if you found out your spouse murdered his/her previous partners?
NO spouse at all .. therefore, the situation would NOT happen to me.





(However, IF I had known that the ex-spouse (from a Short Disaster of a Marriage) had the problems that he HAD while growing up (his temper -- his lack of ability to concentrate, his violence) -- I would NOT have gotten married to him at all. Sad to say -- HIS Family HID This information from me .. and so did he. The ONLY reason it came out is when I LEFT everything behind (and he abused the children too).)
RUN and HIDE. No way I would stay!
I would do whatever she told me to do from then on!






No, I would move as far away as possible lol
Call INS and have him deported!
Definitely. I sort of don't want to live much longer anyway. :)
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  • What would you do if you found out your spouse murdered his/her previous partners?

    Would you stay? Let's say there were at least 6.What would you do if you found out your spouse murdered his/her previous partners?
    i know all of his, but yes i would stay. simply put i have had a few ex's commit suicide and after the 3rd one people start to look at you funny like you did it, when in fact i just had a thing for men with low self esteem when i was in my late teens. luckily that is over and i met a good guy with self esteem and married him.What would you do if you found out your spouse murdered his/her previous partners?
    NO spouse at all .. therefore, the situation would NOT happen to me.





    (However, IF I had known that the ex-spouse (from a Short Disaster of a Marriage) had the problems that he HAD while growing up (his temper -- his lack of ability to concentrate, his violence) -- I would NOT have gotten married to him at all. Sad to say -- HIS Family HID This information from me .. and so did he. The ONLY reason it came out is when I LEFT everything behind (and he abused the children too).)
    RUN and HIDE. No way I would stay!
    I would do whatever she told me to do from then on!






    No, I would move as far away as possible lol
    Call INS and have him deported!
    Definitely. I sort of don't want to live much longer anyway. :)

    Would it bother you if you knew your partner/spouse had slept with a lot of people in the past?

    I am referring to them sleeping around before you fell in love, not after (cheating). Would you hold it against your partner? Would you want to know how many partners your spouse had before you married them?Would it bother you if you knew your partner/spouse had slept with a lot of people in the past?
    It wouldn't bother me. This person has stopped having sex with other people, because of you...believe me, that's HUGE. Why would you hold it against them? One of the great things about life, is the variety of things,(and people) to try. When you've settled on a favorite....then that's it. If it bothers you to know how many partners your partner/spouse has had, do not ask the question. If your together though, and open with each other, petty things like, how many people you have had sex with should matter little.Would it bother you if you knew your partner/spouse had slept with a lot of people in the past?
    Yes it would bother me, because it would tell me something about their character.





    But I wouldn't be able to do anything about it and I wouldn't hold it against them if I had a good reason to believe that they had changed. and I do like to know how many partners someone's had if I'm going to be serious with them.
    Nope. And it shouldn't bother you either. What your partner did before getting into a relationship with you is none of your concern, nor should you hold it against them. You don't have that right.





    And if you want to know the number of persons, ask them. Maybe they'll tell you, maybe they won't.... but it still isn't your business.
    Keep in mind that your spouse gave up sleeping around because hes found the one girl who he doesnt f****...he makes love to...theres a difference....all those girls in his past were jsut toys to f*** but you arent just for that. you are his heart his life and you are there not for gratification...but for love
    Not at all, don't dwell on the past. The past is the past just live the present , as long as he is being loyal now and he shows you that he truly loves you then the rest doesn't matter. Guys tend to go around plenty of times so don't even stress out about it.
    no it wouldn't bother me. My husband and I have been with each other 11 years. and before we got together he has had lots of women before me. He even has a son by one of them. It also doesn't bother him about my past either. We say to each other the past is the past.
    Everyone is different. I think what counts is their morals, not their number. Someone might of made a lot of mistakes when they were younger and recently changed their ways. As long as they value you and the unique love that you share, that is what truly counts=)
    Yes %26amp; No.


    Yes becuase i would really want to be my spouses first, and i would feel weird if he went down on me when in mind he done this before.


    No becuase i would want him to have the least bit of expirence, and i wouldnt want to be a non virgn for him.
    Personally, no, it doesn't bother me to much.


    As long as they have done it before the relationship with you the I wouldn't be too bothered if I were you!


    If it bothers you just tell him and break up with him.
    no, the past is the past and it should stay there and you are his future, so don't worry about it.
    I'm 44...I wouldn't date anyone who hadn't had sex partners in the past. I don't take trainees.





    How many they had is irrelevant. All that matters is they are disease free and capable of commitment.
    Yes. I wouldn't want to be with someone who's been used up. That's a waste of time. I would be better just going in and out and leaving her be.
    hmmm......it'd bug me alil....


    though i will admit i prefer a more experienced guy....


    but pretty much as long as he doesn't just look @ me as another girl to **** or decide to cheat on me ill be fine.
    The past is the past if he is you true love and he loves you I would just leave it alone if you ask about that just shows there is no trust in your relationship :(
    as a man,the less we know bout ur past the better!I dont get y women r hung up bout knowing numbers cuz u always end up holding it against us anyway...so the less u know the better!
    just ask him to get tested and don't get so pissy about it we all have a past, (am i right.) good luck! ^^
    Of course not. It would not change anything
    I wd prefer an experienced man. But not the town whore (certainly not)
    Yes. I wouldn't marry him if he's had sex before. Not cool.
    YYYYYYYYYYEA, it would prob drive me insane. i usually dont even date people like that
    nah
    yes. it bugs me to death
    no as long as they didnt have any diseases its up to u ...
    err.. yeah.. i would get ablood test and STD tests done as well..x

    What kind of divorce in Australia need to pay spouse support fee?

    What kind of divorce in Australia one spouse need to pay another spouse support fee?What kind of divorce in Australia need to pay spouse support fee?
    Spousal support is very rare in Australia. Normally it's only paid in exceptional circumstances and for a limited period.





    However, if for example one party has always stayed at home with the children and has a lower earning capacity than the breadwinner, they will likely be awarded a slightly larger proportion of the property settlement (say 55%) in lieu of regular spousal support.





    So as to what kind of divorce...well see below for the circumstances necessary, like I said it's rarely claimed/awarded though.

    In the state of Florida, if one spouse files for bankruptcy does the other spouses credit get affected by it?

    We do not have any mutual loans or credit cards. We never joined any of our credit cards or loans after marrying and the homes are both in my husbands name and so are the mortgages. Just curious as we are weighing our options.In the state of Florida, if one spouse files for bankruptcy does the other spouses credit get affected by it?
    No, especially not in your specific situation.

    What about your spouse or love makes you sigh?

    Everytime I see my husband focusing on his work it makes me want to just jump and kiss him... I dont know what it is, maybe the fact he doesn't know I am watching him but it makes me just sigh... and smile so big... %26lt;3


    What's makes you sigh?What about your spouse or love makes you sigh?
    when he brushes the hair out of my eyes stops to stare at me and then his hand creeps up cradles my face right before he kisses me.


    This is not helping at all =[What about your spouse or love makes you sigh?
    This weekend, my husband and I worked together to accomplish two things: clean up the house and grill enough food to last for the next few days. I was in the kitchen preparing the food for him to grill and he was running the vacuum cleaner.





    I also love it when he gets up in the middle of the night to let the dogs outside to relieve themselves. That way, my sleep is not disturbed.





    He's such a great husband and there is nothing that I wouldn't do to make him feel as loved as he makes me feel.





    Life is good!
    what gives me that feeling is when my husband actually listens to me and he does sweet things for me; and then sometimes when he is just sleeping and I look at him and I think about all we have been through and that we are making it and that we are still together no matter what that just makes me feel good.
    Hehe.


    Its so funny because, ever since the beginning of our marriage, he called me ';sweetheart'; and this included when we were arguing as well.


    He be saying, at the top of his voice..';But SWEETHEART, I really don't think .. and so on and so on..';





    It just melted all my arguments. But don't let him know I told you that.** wink**





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    So many things....





    When he's playing guitar...





    When he's talking to one of the kids....





    When he looks at me that certain way...





    When he comes up behind me in the kitchen...





    I'm still amazed that after knowing him for over 20 years, I still feel like I do. :)
    I love seeing him with our kids. It can be him cuddling the baby, teaching our son how to play baseball, or dancing around with our middle daughter. He's just such an amazing father! I'm a very lucky woman.
    well with my wife she says when i am asleep i am really cut what ever that means and when i am consternating on something too :( idk what that means but for me its when my wife is cooking or just cuddling togeather.......
    Watching him with his newborn daughter. Especially when she wakes in the middle of the night and he doesn't hesitate to get up.
    Well what makes me sigh is when my husband is cooking, working on his car, or cleaning you know just being a man basically
    When he comes home from a long days work and bends down to give me a great big kiss and hug..Sigh...
    The idea my wife would feel that way about me, makes me sigh.
    I'm not married, but I saw you on AIM with your status message. Hehe So sweet!





    I'm not married, but I'm sure I'll have my ';secret diary of sighs'; when I do!





    Cheers, missy! %26lt;3
    When he is sleeping and snoring softly.
    His smile!
    My partner thinking about how to solve a problem. He pulls the sweetest faces.
    inert smart assed comment here
    His very thought...popping into my mind.





    Him...and my daughter dancing around our living room, singing Hannah Montana at the top of her lungs!

    What's the meaning of a dream of your spouse cheating?

    I never had dreams like this before. I didn't actually dream of her doing it. Just talking to different men, kissing some. I 've had them from 3 nights straight. What could this mean?What's the meaning of a dream of your spouse cheating?
    The following are taken from a dream dictionary.





    To dream that you are cheating on your spouse, mate, fiance, or significant other, suggests feelings of self-guilt and self-betrayal. You may have compromised your beliefs or integrity and/or wasting your energy and time on fruitless endeavors. Alternatively, it reflects the intensity of your sexual passion and exploring areas of your sexuality. It is actually a reaffirmation of your commitment. Furthermore, it is not uncommon for people approaching a wedding to have dreams about erotic experiences with partners other than their intended spouses. Most likely, such dreams represent the newness of your sexual passion. It may also signify anxieties of changing your identity - that of a spouse.





    To dream that your mate, spouse, or significant other is cheating on you, indicates your fears of being abandoned. You may feel a lack of attention in the relationship. Alternatively, you may feel that you are not measuring up to the expectations of others. This notion may stem from issues of trust or self-esteem. The dream could also indicate that you are unconsciously picking up hints and cues that your significant other is not being completely truthful or is not fully committed in the relationship.What's the meaning of a dream of your spouse cheating?
    You must have spent some time thinking about getting rid of her but in a way that you could use to blame her and not you. Cheating


    on you is the easiest one. I say this because the majority of dreams


    are of wish fulfilling.
    I don't think you have to worry, it's just a dream. But it could be about you feeling insecure in your relationship.
    Nothing lol . . . could've just let your mind wander. . . not all dreams have a meaning.
    not all dreams have meaning, but it could also mean that you are uncertain of ur relationship w/ ur spouse...
    It may mean that you're worried that she might cheat, or it may mean nothing at all.
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  • Does my brothers spouse have the right to keep living in my mothers home after my brother passing?

    My mom passed away 2/12 years ago and did not leave a living will. My brother and his wife continued to live in her home and now my brother passed away on 5/16/08. Does she have a right to say that the house is now hers because she has been a residenant since 2000? The house was never in his name. We no longer want her there.Does my brothers spouse have the right to keep living in my mothers home after my brother passing?
    Since there is no will, things can get pretty sticky. However, what ever he inherited would become hers when he died. So, if he had the right to live there she likely still does.





    Why you have waited 2 1/2 years to probate the estate is beyond me.Does my brothers spouse have the right to keep living in my mothers home after my brother passing?
    So the house is still in your mothers name? Yes, you'll need to go to court and put the house into probate. just let her stay there while you do this. The house will be awarded to the next of kin. It will either be her brothers or sisters or her children. The judge will decide. NOTHING can be done with the house (selling it for instance) until the judge has ruled on the probate case. The house is not automatically hers just because she lived there. What if she was actually a renter? Who paid rent to your Mom? She doesn't have any right to the house. Let the courts decide. Good luck! (and get a living trust put together for yourselves so this can't happen to you. A living trust gives exact instruction on what to do with all your assets)
    Off to probate court you go, which is what you should have done 2 1/2 years ago. Hire an attorney that specializes in estates and have him take it to the court to get the property distributed correctly.





    ps- a living will is for when you're living, she didn't leave a last will and testement. So each state has rules in place for how the property assets are distributed, your brother's share will pass to his wife and children, but it won't be the whole house, the court will sell it or make her buy everyone else's shares so she can keep it.
    I notice you don't mention your Dad, so I am going to assume your Mom owed the home in her name only at death. If so, you and your brother (and any other brothers and sisters) became equal owners in the house when she died without a will. Now that your brother has died, his spouse probably as ';homestead rights'; to stay on the property, though these very from state to state, and in some states she will have inherited all of your brother's interest. In short, she probably owns part of the house and so do you. You will need an attorney, or at least a trusted friend in the real estate business to sort this out.
    no she does not have a legal right to stay in the house, she has an opinionated right to stay in the house. she believes that since she has been living there for 8 years she has no other means to find another home. however if you want her out and she has a job to support herself then you could ask her to find an apartment or start charging her rent for staying in a house that is not rightfully hers.
    I'm sure you can get her out somehow. Even most living wills clearly establish that their property only be given to their children and exclude the spouse in case they divorce in the future. Perhaps citing this, you can get her removed somehow.
    This is a probate court issue and they usually divide the estate evenly between the live blood relative Get a lawyer and settle the estate. The legal fees will be can be paid back out of the estate to the person who paid for them or out of estate if there is any cash in the estate.

    Do you sleep in the same bed as your spouse?

    I just read a shocking survey that found that 39% of couples don't sleep in the same bed for reasons such as more comfortable, snoring, no sexual relations. And these couples keep this a secret from friends and family members. That's weird! Do you sleep in the same bed?Do you sleep in the same bed as your spouse?
    My wife and I have been married for more than 20 years. We sleep in the same bed, despite her snoring like a trooper!


    It has gotten to the stage in our marriage that we have tried EVERYTHING sexually that we could think off. Even to the point that we can have sex when both of us are asleep.


    Recently, she has been away at weekends, visiting her very ill mother.


    I cannot sleep - because of the lack of her snoring and the familiarity and comfort of sharing each other's love and body warmth - even if we are asleep.


    I guess that is what you call 'True Love'!Do you sleep in the same bed as your spouse?
    I have actually joked around with my husband saying i would like my own bed. But we do sleep in the same bed, if you can count that he works nights and doesn't get home til 430 am and i wake up at 630-7.





    My husbands grandparents sleep in different beds tho, and different rooms. My grandparents sleep in the same bed tho. I think its kinda weird that they have their own rooms but maybe it would be kinda cool LOL.
    When I get married I'm sure I will. But my parents actually sleep in different rooms. They don't hate each other or anything, they're just on very different schedules work-wise, and they're at that point in their lives that they aren't very cuddly anymore. It's kind of depressing, but to each their own I suppose...
    Yeah. We have only slept one night apart (other than being at conferences and other reasons for not being in the same town) and that was when we both had the flu.





    I have a friend that doesn't because of her husband's snoring...though in all honesty I think there is more to it.
    when he is home we do! my husband has to do a lot of night shift, but every night before i go to sleep he calls me and tells me he loves me, and in the morning i wake up in his arms. or recently, i wake up to him talking to my belly! but i could never sleep in a different bed to him, its hard enough going to sleep with out him!
    Absolutely! We share an antique (circa 1889) full size brass bed (no queen or kings back then in beds that is lol)....he's a ringer for Santa and a snuggler too...keeps me warm on cold nights like a big teddy bear....he will often pull me into his arms while still asleep...can't see it ever changing...


    Only been married for 2 and 1/2 years and I'm the first to bed...I don;t really sleep well until he hits the sheets...and he does snore so go figure lol...but I rather listen to him snore all night than be in bed alone.








    ..we're 58 (him) and 55 (me).....good luck.
    yes we do sleep in the same bed but for about to years i was working graveyard patrol shift and she works during the day but my parents have separate beds but they put them together to make one bed its for mattress reasons but me and her have been sleeping in the same bed since we dated
    Of course.Sometimes I would rather not because of his snoring,but,he would wake up,find me not there,and go looking for me.He has a fear of being abandoned so maybe that's why he gets paranoid if I'm not there.
    Yes i sleep in the same bed with my spouse, but do not engage in sexual relations ( once every month ) so if you have any other questions you want to ask me please do so


    ( I'm in the playpen with Mildred )
    Of course. I couldn't imagine having to sleep in a different bed than my wife. Even though we are on our own sides of the bed, the closeness is very comforting.
    Yes...unless I fall asleep on the sofa waiting for a special TV program and wake up in the wee hours to a screen full of ';snow';.
    kind of hard for me right now to sleep in the same bed with my husband...he's half around the world in iraq for a year...now when he's home hells yea we sleep in the same bed...
    Would love to sleep in the same bed as my hubby. But kinda hard to do when he is gone for a year. Nothing like the feel of his warm sexy body next to mine!
    No. I hate sleeping with another person in the bed. I am a very light sleeper and he will keep me up all night with his snoring and moving around.


    We have sex, then sleep in different rooms!





    It's all good!
    Yea, I sleep in the same bed with my fiance =).
    No. We first got separate beds because of his snoring, that lead to almost no sex, then he got a girl friend, now he's leaving me after 22 years.
    well some people just prefer not top its not abnormal or anything.. but id want to sleep with my spouse because it just feels right..
    Yes, I do. I can't sleep without him. I have to have him next to me.
    2 nights out of the week yes. The other nights hes at work :(! Its very hard to sleep without him.
    Bloody hell YEA!!





    If she didn't want to sleep with me and put up with me,then there's no marriage!
    Yes.... and that's because I don't have another bed to sleep in!!! lol
    yes for we just love being with each other but it depends on how you feel about your spouse.
    we not only sleep in the same bed, but we are extra sweet because we hug each other all night..... aww how cute!
    yup and now i can't sleep alone lol
    Yes, for 20-30 minutes.
    nope, she's in bed i'm on the couch, every nite. we dont really like each other...............
    yes, unless he is being mean then he sleeps in the other room.
    Sure do.
    A couple nights a week if i do not work every nite. She usually takes a nap while i'm sleeping if that counts.





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    Of course I do!
    Smokes too much in bedroom and snores like a bear ....... need I say more.

    Can you love your child but cheat on your spouse?

    I always hear people saying, ';I love my kids to death,'; yet these same people are out sleeping around.





    Is your love for your child(ren) independent of your love for your spouse?Can you love your child but cheat on your spouse?
    Yes! People who have kids should know that...that is a parents love for their child is bigger than their love for their spouse and greater than ones love for ones self. If a marriage is bad it does the child no good for the parents to stay in it, however one needs to make it clear that the child is not a fault for the breakup. Children can sense a bad marriage, they are not stupid. Understand too that I am not saying cheating is right, just that it happens whether people like it or not.Can you love your child but cheat on your spouse?
    Yes, I do not think the love of my children are dependent upon the love of my spouse and vise versa. One would hope the love of your children would inspire you to fix the relationship or make it so there are two happy homes. Cheating on a spouse certainly limits how cordial you can be to one another. I agree with you people are selfish and it is always the kids that suffer.
    I love my kids more than anything in this world. Thats the reason why I am still with my spouse. But knowing long term that I will be in a miserable relationship what does cheating have to do with the love for my children? I cheated to give myself a little bit of happiness to keep me somewhat sane.


    I know there are people who say cheating is morally wrong and if you have to cheat then leave first but do they really know the circumstances along with it? Judgement is not what is needed in this world.
    Of course you can and most do. Divorced parents still love their children but seldom love the ex.
    Yep no need to explain you can love the kids but not like or even love the spouse anymore.
    no, cheat on your spouse and you are cheating your children-why can't people just masturbate more?
    That doesnt make sense to me.What does loving your child have to do with cheating on your spouse.I think people love their children no matter what even if they are low down dirty cheaters.
    You can, it just doesn't speak well for you.
    people who cheat are only thinking of themselves, they may love their kids, but they love themselves more
    yes, there are people are like that, so that would be true.

    Would you have a parent live with you and spouse?

    We are thinking of buying a home with an attached granny unit for my 73 year old father. Its a great house, but we are worried about sharing our space after so many years of just me and my husband. We are in our 40's with no kids. I want to care for my dad, but we are worried about the impact on our otherwise peaceful life. What to do?Would you have a parent live with you and spouse?
    I know it is scary - set some rules and bounderies. You will always have your 'bedroom' as a sanctuary to be alone.


    You father will appreciate it - I'm sure he feels lonely and would not be as happy is you just placed him in a home :(





    He probably felt the same way when they decided to have kids (you). Giving up there free time and sharing it with the kids. It's payback time and you should do it.Would you have a parent live with you and spouse?
    Give it a try and try to put yourself in his position. ? Sharing a little space might also bring you closer to your Dad and enjoy his company and wisdom. You will have this memory for the rest of your life. If it becomes an issue then deal with it as it comes up. You do have control of your space and I am sure he will respect it. Yes there will be some impact but did your parents not have impact when they raised you? Time to give back.
    Depends what sort of guy your Dad is, is he laid back easy to get along with.





    At least being in a granny flat he wont be in your house all the time.





    If it was my Mother that wanted to live with me it would be NO WAY but that is a whole other story, I love my Mum but she has her issues ans would be IMPOSSIBLE to live with, I think a Dad would be better than a Mum as they dont get as invloved in things and men tend to like their space and priviacy
    My husband is serving in Iraq right now, and when he gets home, we are finally having our dream house house built for us and our 3 kids. We are moving his parents up with us from New Jersey. They are in a tough spot and need help and wed love to help. Its family. Family is very important. Should be there for each other. Help out your father, i mean.. hes your dad. He was there for you, now its your turn to be there for him. :-) Well thats just how it goes right? But anyway, everything will be just fine. Best of Luck to you!! You and your father take care.
    ideally you'll be able to take your dad in. but it depends on the kind of person your dad is. some people are very dominant and meddlesome. others are mellow; they know their role and they know how to get along with others. so no one on y/a can answer this question for u. only u and your husband can. if you decide no and your dad is not able to care for himself then a home for the aged would be a good idea.
    Not the best idea. Then again, I could see the potential in it working if the parent has separate living quarters. And if set boundaries are made extremely clear from the word ';go';.


    My mother (and 17 y/o sister, at the time) lived with us for about 6 months. We were in a 3 bed/2 bth house though. It seemed confining and too small for ALL of us. Never a good idea for 2 strong-willed women who are both used to running their own households to dwell under the same roof.


    Love my mom though! Just waaaay too old to live with her! =o)





    Good Luck with your situation. I hope it works out for all involved!
    Unfortunately both my parents have died but if either 1 of them was still alive yes i would because they would be both in their 70's and i would worry about them living alone at such an old age...





    They raised me and it would be only right to be there for them and take care of them if they needed me just like they did when i was a kid.
    I would do it for my mom, but not my dad......for my father-in-law, but not my mother-in-law. Simply because of the kind of people they are. It's the right thing to do for your parents if they need you and it's a very selfless act. Your life is going to be different and it's not going to be easy.......but it won't be forever and in the long run you will be glad you did it.
    It is a big commitment to have another adult live with you - I could have my mother %26amp; my mother in law come live with us but my father in law would cause too much disruption. I guess it comes down to how much he can do for himself and how much he will be relying on you.
    your husband MUST be ALL for it to make it work. and you have to remember who comes first , you and your husband. your life can't revolve your dad.


    my mil lives with us, and ';we'; can't do anything unless mother can do without our presents for an hour or two. big decision, talk it out.
    he wont be around forever,think of how you will feel after hes gone,think of what he has given up for you also.this would not be a question for me,if he needs you,and wants too,it shouldnt be a thought
    IT ALWAYS STRIKES ME HOW SELFISH WE'D BECOME IN THIS COUNTRY REGARDING OUR ELDERS. IF YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF YOUR DAD THEN AS A LOVING DAUGHTER DO IT. BY HIM LIVING IN THE GRANNY UNIT YOU WILL AND YOUR HUBBY WILL BE ABLE TO KEEP YOUR PRIVACY AND YOU'LL GET TO SPEND SOME QUALITY TIME W/YOUR DAD. GOOD LUCK
    You didn't mention if you all get along. You have to decide on thoughtful, realistic rules and rituals you all can live with for the long term.





    It could work out fine for the right people, or disastrous for the wrong ones...which are you?
    Take care of your ';dad';, it might be inconvenient, but you won't regret it!


    I wish I could take care of my MOM again! But she's now gone, and I have no regrets!


    Old people are full of wisdom and knowledge! use his to your advantage!
    Yes. Family is so important. I have no family left so its very lonely to not have them around.

    Would you have a parent live with you and spouse?

    We are thinking of buying a home with an attached granny unit for my 73 year old father. Its a great house, but we are worried about sharing our space after so many years of just me and my husband. We are in our 40's with no kids. I want to care for my dad, but we are worried about the impact on our otherwise peaceful life. What to do?Would you have a parent live with you and spouse?
    I know it is scary - set some rules and bounderies. You will always have your 'bedroom' as a sanctuary to be alone.


    You father will appreciate it - I'm sure he feels lonely and would not be as happy is you just placed him in a home :(





    He probably felt the same way when they decided to have kids (you). Giving up there free time and sharing it with the kids. It's payback time and you should do it.Would you have a parent live with you and spouse?
    Give it a try and try to put yourself in his position. ? Sharing a little space might also bring you closer to your Dad and enjoy his company and wisdom. You will have this memory for the rest of your life. If it becomes an issue then deal with it as it comes up. You do have control of your space and I am sure he will respect it. Yes there will be some impact but did your parents not have impact when they raised you? Time to give back.
    Depends what sort of guy your Dad is, is he laid back easy to get along with.





    At least being in a granny flat he wont be in your house all the time.





    If it was my Mother that wanted to live with me it would be NO WAY but that is a whole other story, I love my Mum but she has her issues ans would be IMPOSSIBLE to live with, I think a Dad would be better than a Mum as they dont get as invloved in things and men tend to like their space and priviacy
    My husband is serving in Iraq right now, and when he gets home, we are finally having our dream house house built for us and our 3 kids. We are moving his parents up with us from New Jersey. They are in a tough spot and need help and wed love to help. Its family. Family is very important. Should be there for each other. Help out your father, i mean.. hes your dad. He was there for you, now its your turn to be there for him. :-) Well thats just how it goes right? But anyway, everything will be just fine. Best of Luck to you!! You and your father take care.
    ideally you'll be able to take your dad in. but it depends on the kind of person your dad is. some people are very dominant and meddlesome. others are mellow; they know their role and they know how to get along with others. so no one on y/a can answer this question for u. only u and your husband can. if you decide no and your dad is not able to care for himself then a home for the aged would be a good idea.
    Not the best idea. Then again, I could see the potential in it working if the parent has separate living quarters. And if set boundaries are made extremely clear from the word ';go';.


    My mother (and 17 y/o sister, at the time) lived with us for about 6 months. We were in a 3 bed/2 bth house though. It seemed confining and too small for ALL of us. Never a good idea for 2 strong-willed women who are both used to running their own households to dwell under the same roof.


    Love my mom though! Just waaaay too old to live with her! =o)





    Good Luck with your situation. I hope it works out for all involved!
    Unfortunately both my parents have died but if either 1 of them was still alive yes i would because they would be both in their 70's and i would worry about them living alone at such an old age...





    They raised me and it would be only right to be there for them and take care of them if they needed me just like they did when i was a kid.
    I would do it for my mom, but not my dad......for my father-in-law, but not my mother-in-law. Simply because of the kind of people they are. It's the right thing to do for your parents if they need you and it's a very selfless act. Your life is going to be different and it's not going to be easy.......but it won't be forever and in the long run you will be glad you did it.
    It is a big commitment to have another adult live with you - I could have my mother %26amp; my mother in law come live with us but my father in law would cause too much disruption. I guess it comes down to how much he can do for himself and how much he will be relying on you.
    your husband MUST be ALL for it to make it work. and you have to remember who comes first , you and your husband. your life can't revolve your dad.


    my mil lives with us, and ';we'; can't do anything unless mother can do without our presents for an hour or two. big decision, talk it out.
    he wont be around forever,think of how you will feel after hes gone,think of what he has given up for you also.this would not be a question for me,if he needs you,and wants too,it shouldnt be a thought
    IT ALWAYS STRIKES ME HOW SELFISH WE'D BECOME IN THIS COUNTRY REGARDING OUR ELDERS. IF YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF YOUR DAD THEN AS A LOVING DAUGHTER DO IT. BY HIM LIVING IN THE GRANNY UNIT YOU WILL AND YOUR HUBBY WILL BE ABLE TO KEEP YOUR PRIVACY AND YOU'LL GET TO SPEND SOME QUALITY TIME W/YOUR DAD. GOOD LUCK
    You didn't mention if you all get along. You have to decide on thoughtful, realistic rules and rituals you all can live with for the long term.





    It could work out fine for the right people, or disastrous for the wrong ones...which are you?
    Take care of your ';dad';, it might be inconvenient, but you won't regret it!


    I wish I could take care of my MOM again! But she's now gone, and I have no regrets!


    Old people are full of wisdom and knowledge! use his to your advantage!
    Yes. Family is so important. I have no family left so its very lonely to not have them around.

    Can I transfer my GI Bill money to my spouse, while i am still on active duty?

    I have already paid for my gi bill and i'm about to re enlist, my significant other is planning on taking 8 more years of college and i'll probably never use my GI Bill (I already have 100% TA with the Navy) so transfering it would be good for both of us. Is it possible?Can I transfer my GI Bill money to my spouse, while i am still on active duty?
    I'm AF so I guess it could be different, but the GI Bill in the AF is after I think 2 years active duty you can transfer it.
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  • Anytime your lady spouse gets upset should you apologize then explain yourself?

    Should you apologize for everything even if it seems small to you if your spouse gets upset or is this being a wuss and creating a unstable dynamic.Anytime your lady spouse gets upset should you apologize then explain yourself?
    Marriage is about loving. It's not a battle ground. If your spouse is upset there must be a reason and, if you love her, you should be interested in helping deal with what is troubling her. Acknowledge her pain and if you do not understand the reason ask her to explain. And don't get defensive or adversarial. Listen attentively without interrupting, what might be small to you may be larger for her. We all have different things that annoy us or cause us to feel neglected or unloved. If it turns out that you have done or said anything to cause her upset apologise right away. The aim in marriage is unity and harmony on what is a mysterious journey of ever deepening love.Anytime your lady spouse gets upset should you apologize then explain yourself?
    Not if you want your marriage to last. I wouldn't call it being a wuss, sounds like you either can't handle confrontation so you would rather sweep it under the rug (doesn't resolve the issue) or you just want her to shut up. NO way to communicate and eventually you will end up one bitter controlled man. It may seem like small issues now but it will get larger. Try TALKING about what made her upset to begin with...and hopefully you can come to a productive resolution...mind you this is my advice with the thought you are both ok with being wrong sometimes and agree to disagree...good luck with that..it takes a mature and seasoned relationship!
    I will take it your a man and asking this question.





    Yes. Do not apologize for everything. Why should you?





    We are all human and make mistakes, some we can't help.





    This person is a control freak and a person who provides mental punishment. You will be miserable in this relationship. Move on my friend....do it now.
    Just apologize that she's upset, and don't give her an explanation( a friggen excuse if you ask me) unless she asks for one. Instead, give her a back rub and just keep your lips zipped unless its : '; let's talk about this, how can we make this work better next time?';
    .....a wuss? unstable dynamic? sounds like your a douche. Maybe you NEED to apologize to her.
    Just apologize and shut up. Even if she's wrong, she's right. The sooner you realize this, the easier your life will be. She can't penetrate your mind you know. lol.
    Yes. The man should always apologize cause it's always his fault.
    No way don't play into her crap it will never end then.

    Married couples: do you think its ok for your spouse to have a friendship with an ex lover?

    Has anyone ever had a deep relationship with someone and if failed and you craved to still have a friendship with that person? Also, if you both still want to be friends and the spouse has serious jealousy issues what do you do about it. Yes maybe there will always be feelings for each other, but you know you just simply love and care for this person like a true friend. Is there possibility of a friendship or am in denial?Married couples: do you think its ok for your spouse to have a friendship with an ex lover?
    your spouse has every right to feel threatened, because whenever there is a problem or the marriage hits some rough patches, u begin confiding in the friend, and your marriage suffers. if the spouse is jealous of the friend, and u know it and continue the relationship, in spite of it, it ruins what u have with your spouse. if u still love the person u should never have married some one else. your in denial that u can control things by keeping a relationship with someone u once loved. its always going to turn into an affair, because when u run into problems in the marriage, u know that there is always someone u can go to for emotional help. when your married you end all relationships where u once loved someone, because it really wouldn't take too much to reignite those old feelings u once had.Married couples: do you think its ok for your spouse to have a friendship with an ex lover?
    When my husband and I went through the prerequisite counseling before we were married, our pastor told us to cut off all ties to previous relationships and to get rid of anything that we had from those relationships (gifts, photos, letters, etc.). We both agreed that that was a healthy and right decision to make.





    Neither of us is the jealous type, but we both wanted to make our commitment to each other solid and clear. We didn't ever want the temptation to fall back into an old relationship if it should ever happen that our marriage would go through a difficult time. Our marriage has to come first always.





    You say that you're craving a friendship with this other person and that ';there will always be feelings for each other.'; That sounds awfully dangerous. If you still have feelings for him and crave his presence, then you're not just friends. It sounds like your husband has a good reason to be jealous and even if he doesn't, you need to respect his feelings and get rid of this friendship. If you are truly committed to your husband, this old relationship is not worth ruining your marriage over.
    I think that you are in denial, because that person still have your heart. The spouse is not jealousy, she is worried, that she is about to lose out. Wouldn't you be if the shoes was on the other foot. It is possible to have a relationship with you ex- but listen to your own words. You ';craved to have a friendship'; and ';Yes, there will always been feeling for each other';. You are hoping that you can rekindle the relationship, because of failure in the past. I would say you are going to have to make a decision because somebody is going to get hurt in the end. Remember this and hopefully this will help you ';If a person has your heart, than they have a part of your life, because we always follow our heart';. Good luck
    when I end the relationship I also end the friendship. I always warn about my rule - some people like it, so no.


    In general I am jealous person (I know it's wrong and I am trying to work on it really hard! - but, oh well)


    I am not friends with my ex'es and I am expecting this same from my husband (before boyfriends - I always say it before something started).


    My husband was friend with his ex for like 8 years... she was cool as long he was single. When she found out about me she started writing him messages like - she looks like me, hugs, kisses and lots of love etc... He tried to tell me that she is just a friend (and yes she was friend his friend for him, but she wanted something more from him!) I explained this to him that friends don't say things like that after they learning about the new relationship and I asked him to stop talking to her (they were only sending emails)


    For me past is a past...
    NO! friendship is out of the question. something else has been there, and the more you are in contact with that person, the more the past will be brought back up time and again. and if there is ANY jealousy issues, as there will be, you MUST defer to your husband, you married HIM, not the ex, so the husband gets your primary attention. cut off contact with the ex before your husband is ex number 2
    I used to be very jealous when I was younger. I didn't even allow my wife to answer calls, however with the years I have learned that in her heart there is room for the persons she once loved and it wouldn't be smart not taking advantage of it. Nowadays when she is 41 she is really enjoying a nice relationship with a guy she dated for three years in college. He is also married and we have made friends with them as a couple. However sometimes they just need to go out and spend some time together. He understand her very well and gives her good counseling and support.
    Once an ex has a commitment with someone else you must back off and respect. If you want a friend, go on MySpace or Singles Site or even better yet, get a pet. But please keep yourself out of this guy's life, he has no feelings for you or he would not have married someone else, speak for yourself. Yes, you are in denial. Slap yourself in the face, wipe your tears, raise your head up high and move on with your life. Good luck
    If you know that husband doesn't approve of the relationship and have indicated, ';Yes there will always be feelings for each other,'; then it's wrong, in my opinion.





    How would you feel if it was your spouse talking to his ex lover that he 'always will have feelings for?';
    First off if there is a jealousy issue then you need to get all involved to sit down and talk. This way all can get to know each other and go from there. I dont think its a question of should there be a friendship, sounds more like not knowing about the jealous one.
    The key words here are ';spouse has serious jealousy issues';. You have to ask yourself...Is my wanting to be a friend with my former lover worth the damage it will cause to my present relationship?


    Which relationship means more to you? Former or present?


    Good Luck. :)
    I don't think it is a good idea.





    There is a saying in my country..';Where there was once a fire, there will always be ashes';.





    Why be friends with someone who meant a lot in the past, when you are now married? I think exes should be left where they belong...in the past.
    No, if the spouse is not comfortable with it. Yes, if all three are friendly and all is on the up and up with no secrets in the relationship.
    The bottom line is the spouse is obviously not comfortable with the situation and out of respect for them and the marriage there should be no contact with the ex.
    I think it's okay to continue a friendship with an ex-lover as long as the parties involved agree that all three can be friends, not just the two.
    i find nothing wrong with my partner being friends with anyone she wants to... i'm not her keeper... she is her own person and has the right to be friends with anyone she chooses...





    i am not the jealous type...
    sometimes people could truly have a relationship that have nothing to do with sex


    just keep a close eyes on them and try to keep your insecurity hiden from the x
    No, unless they had children together
    there are no adult relationships without sex...meet me in mildred's playpen
    Not only no, but gosh golly no.
    HELL NO that's so not right.
    No of course not!
    I would say NO and tell him how it makes you feel,
    No I don't think it's OK??????? If you didn't get along when you were married or dating, then why would you now??????
    hell no.
    not a good idea
    As long as everyone is on the same playing field, I see no problem with it. However, it sounds like the spouse in this story is NOT on the same playing field (I don't know if it's yours or his). But if that is the case, then you have to ask yourself if the past relationship/friendship is worth screwing with the current one.





    It's hard to put a real answer to because it's subjective. My best friend in the world is an ex. He has a pregnant fiancee and I have a boyfriend. Both of our S/O's understand that we were friends long before either of them showed up and luckily, neither are the jealous type anyway. I am not the jealous type and I'm also not the type to tell someone who they can and can't hang out with, unless I have a legitimate reason for doing so...and in my mind ';You used to date them.'; isn't legit enough.





    With all that said though, if you were my spouse and were saying things like ';Yes maybe there will always be feelings for each other'; then I wouldn't be okay with you two hanging out alone. That's just playing with fire.
    I am friends and talk every couple days to my last serious BF. He was hubby's best friend. We all cared about each other. This relationship was 13 years prior to reconnecting though so my husband and I are far more deeply bonded and a little less jealous. He is stationed overseas so he and I do not have access to one another. Sometimes the conversation is sexual, at my instigation but it is never serious and my husband is aware. There can be a little jealousy (things come up in life in general) but we mature and secure enough to not let that get in the way of talking to someone we both had a lot of fun with way back when! Anyway, if it werent for this other guy--my husband and I would not have what we have today!


    So, yes--you can have friendship with an ex even when jealousy may exist. Remember, I moved from one guy to another here! but the past is the past--yes, I still care about what happens in ex's life but not at all like I do with my husband and my husband knows that. My ex knows that too believe it or not. I enjoy the friendship we have now formed, he was and still is a great guy---just like my husband. I am proud of myself that I chose so well, even when I was young!


    My husband and he talk regularly as well and it's such a great thing that we can all get along in spite of the transition we made.

    Do you have to file tax jointly with your spouse when you apply for green card?

    My wife and I went to the Tax place and the lady told us that we could maximize our return by filling seperately. Would it have an impact on the fact that we will be filling for my green card sometime soon?Do you have to file tax jointly with your spouse when you apply for green card?
    Joint tax returns are useful to prove to immigration that you have a genuine marriage but if you have plenty of other documentation you don't need joint tax returns. It's not unusual for married couples to file separately if it's financially advantageous so you won't be the first couple to do this. Just make sure you have plenty other proof of your relationship. You can always back up your application with affadavits from people who know you both as a couple.Do you have to file tax jointly with your spouse when you apply for green card?
    Think long-term. Do not file seperate because it'd be beneficial for you in the short run. Immigartion looks at all these records (even tough is not mandatory to file togeteher) to determine if the marriage is real and for the right reasons and not fake. File your returns together, that will help you a lot.

    What's it called when you make a list of people it's ok for your spouse to sleep with?

    I remember hearing about a type of list that couples made where each partner lists the top ten people they would want to sleep with if the chance ever arose (usually celebs), and the other person gives their implicit permission because, yeah, it'd be the chance of a lifetime.What's it called when you make a list of people it's ok for your spouse to sleep with?
    It was a story line on Friends while Ross and Rachel were dating, but I don't remember what they called it. I know it had Isabella Rossellini as a guest star, though.





    This was driving me crazy so I looked it up. They called it a ';Freebie'; List.What's it called when you make a list of people it's ok for your spouse to sleep with?
    Apart from being able to tell all the people you know, that you slept with so and so, what is the big deal about this?


    Who says it was worth the lay?


    Wow! Yeah! But I didn麓t even come... And his breath! Aaaaagh!


    Yeah! he/she didn麓t even say good bye when he/she left...





    Doesn麓t it sound a bit shallow and stupid?


    Lay a good friend. It will be much better to share yourself with someone who cares for you, than any old sod you meet at a party. No matter how rich and famous he/she might be.
    I've always called it an exemption. I have one exemption (Daniel Craig). I've never heard of anybody having any more than one. A whole list seems greedy.





    The point is that I will never have a chance with my exemption, which is why giving permission isn't exactly threatening. LOL
    I haven't ever really heard an ';official'; term for it until recently. The only one I've heard being adopted is ';Five Fame %#@!ers';, which sounds like a pretty great term.





    They did do this on Friends, but I don't think they had a name for it! They just explained it every time they mentioned it.
    Divorce.. boredom of their partner they r with.. Negligence of the significant other for those out in the world.. ** my fave** Not knowing wat true love is and would rather ruin something unique.
    The five fame f******s list





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    fantasy list.


    celevrity list


    (you KNOW It will ALWAYS be a fantasy and he has no shot in hell with that celebrity)





    my ex had Jessica Alba on his celebrity list.
    it's called breaking your marriage vows.
    One of the reasons that marriage is a dying institution...
    Divorce
    Insanity?
    trouble in writing.
    it's called a stuiped and get a life list
    that sounds pathetic to me
    weird
    and you think this is RIGHT because...I've never heard of such a thing.

    Should women buy their own jewelry or should their spouse?

    I own my own gallery filled with jewelry. Women constantly come in and complain that their husbands only buy them what they want, not what she wants. But then men complain that women are never satisfied. What's the deal? Who should be buying what?Should women buy their own jewelry or should their spouse?
    Personally, I think it is best if a woman buys her on jewelry since it is really a personal style statement. However, a husband or significant other should be paying attention when they hear their partner say they like something, and then go back and get it. Guy's can buy diamond earrings, or a tennis bracelet, pearls, but anything past that is asking for trouble.Should women buy their own jewelry or should their spouse?
    women should go shopping for their own but its a very nice gift from a spouse ATLEAST every month or every other month
    Im not auctly sure, im 13 but i already have a job an earn money so i brought my Girl friend a gold heart pendant she loved it so, i think its the thought that counts no mater what the gift is but men do need to think about there gifts more,
    I mean of course the girl can buy it herself but it will mean some thing the man get it for her..!
    the guy should give the woman the money to buy the jewelry

    What movie/TV show do you and your spouse like to watch together?

    Do you and your spouse have a favorite movie or tv show that you love to watch together?What movie/TV show do you and your spouse like to watch together?
    TrueBlood, Dexter, Family Guy and Scrubs... So far as movies, we watch LOTS of them. Too many to list.What movie/TV show do you and your spouse like to watch together?
    We watch House, Smallville, Survivor, and America's Next Top Model, plus American Idol when it's on. There are very few movies we both love, but a couple we like watching together are Planes, Trains, and Automobiles, and My Best Friend's Wedding.
    Sons of Anarchy


    It's always sunny in Philadephia


    Friends


    Family guy


    South park


    Tool academy


    and many many more...we love watching stuff together





    As far as movies, he's very open minded


    The Notebook


    Super bad


    Step brothers


    Good fellas


    I love you Beth Cooper


    Slum dog millionaire


    Yes, man


    I love man


    The proposal


    Premonition


    The life of david gale


    And many many more
    We watch The Fabulous Life of ..... Rich %26amp; Famous, Millionaires, Billionaires, Forbes top List.....





    Husband is very driven, ambitious, and looking to make one or more of those list! While I like all the Real Housewives shows %26amp; he has to watch with me!
    The only thing we seem to agree on these days is American Idol. She generally watches those hollywood shows like The Insider, etc., while I prefer dramas. It's been a lonely summer...
    Ghost Whisperer (cause she's hot),Criminal Minds(not sure why),Castle(good casting,they play off each other well),and several cooking shows on food network
    We watch House,porn,Lie To Me,porn,Fringe,porn,Sanctuary,porn
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    We watch House, Nip/Tuck, Ultimate Fighter, RW/RR Challenge and occasionally he will watch Jon and Kate plus 8 and The Hills with me! lol
    Degrassi TNG. LOL
    You can watch 3500 HD Channels online. - http://www.reviews-report.com/satellitetv.html
    Law %26amp; Order


    CSI


    Criminal Minds
    Heroes and Smallville
    We enjoy watching That 70s Show, CSI, Man Vs Food, Food Network Challenges, Next Iron Chef, Chopped - just to name a few.
    Battlestar Galactica and the Stargate shows. Of the current ones, we're watching ';V';.
    Asian Porn





    Better than TV, you should read ';Penthouse Letters'; in bed - TOGETHER.
    Most anything with Johnny Depp will do.
    I think a really gritty film is the Shawshank Redemption I know you both will enjoy.
    Mostly I watch tv while he sits at the computer and fumes. I like The Good Wife and Grey's Anatomy.
    When I was married was The Office, Seinfeld.
    Right now it is Sons of Anarchy and Nip/Tuck. FX has the best shows on T.V. right now.
    we both love 2 陆 men
    We love all the SAW movies...and we watch Wheel of Fortune every night, and CSI and The Mentalist.
    Me and Big J watch Lie to Me every monday night.





    i love that show
    We don't watch a lot of TV, but we just started watching that new V show together.
    We like The Soup on E! on weekend mornings.
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  • Does a spouse need to meet any requirements if their husband/wife is applying for PR in Canada on their behalf?

    For example, if a family decides to move to Canada and the husband has found work there before arriving, does the wife also need to have a job or is it just sufficient for her to stay in the country for the required amount of time?





    Thank you.Does a spouse need to meet any requirements if their husband/wife is applying for PR in Canada on their behalf?
    Each adult applies for Permanent Residency individually.





    The husband applies for PR as a skilled worker/professional, then, if he receives Permanent Residency. only then can he sponsor the family. Sponsored Family Class immigrants are not required to demonstrate employment, since they are sponsored.





    Alternatively, the wife can submit her own skilled worker/professional PR application, but yes this requires employment.





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    Is it normal to enjoy being tickled on the bottom of your feet by your spouse?

    The other day my husband was trying to irritate me. He tickled the bottom of my feet. It felt so good. He said he was trying to bug me so I would give him the TV remote control, but I wasn't irritated. Instead I enjoy being tickled down there. Is it normal to like it ?Is it normal to enjoy being tickled on the bottom of your feet by your spouse?
    and what... prey tell.... does this have to do with MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE?????








    get a real question.Is it normal to enjoy being tickled on the bottom of your feet by your spouse?
    There are enough people who do enjoy it, whether or not they own up to it (personally I live for it), that it probably does meet the threshold for normalcy. But there is not a lot of point, either way, in basing private enjoyment with a spouse on some sort of poll and only going with the top five answers or some such. It's fun, harmless, and even has the advantage of being something that is not forbidden to be done im public. Within moderation, therefore, you can indulge yourselves in a variety of situations not available to those of many other tastes. Just think of the possibilities.
    normal is such a relative word. if u enjoy it i hope u let him know and if he is paying attention at all ur feet will be tickled lots! my hubby likes to tickle the bottoms of my feet too and tho i let him i am terribly ticklish on my feet and it drives me crazy. i guess that is normal for us.
    I am extremely ticklish on my feet so it would annoy me after a while. Others aren't phased so you're all good. i wouldn't have told him it didn't annoy you cause now he will try harder to find something that does :/


    men are funny at times :)
    i have a good friend whose like a dad 2 me, %26amp; he recently started tickling my knees while i was watching tv on the couch. he does this when he wants 2 sit down w/ my legs in his lap. i just couldn't help but laugh.
    Normal. what is this word you speak of? :-)





    Why worry what people think is normal? If you like it, and ';it'; is something that is not hurting anyone, enjoy it.
    Yes, it's perfectly normal. You are certainly not alone. I've known several women in my time who thoroughly enjoyed having their feet tickled. There's nothing wrong with it at all.
    Who cares? There are so many weirder things out there... How cute is it that you like your husband to tickle your feet? Adorable!
    Normal is not caring if other people like it:you like it.





    'nuff said.
    If it feels good DO IT!!
    omg thats HORRIBLY ticklish!


    ANY contact on my feet is agony specialy on my soles


    eeesh
    My partner and I tickle each other often (not often enough for me, though. lol)

    Would you hire a private investigor on your spouse if you thought he was cheating?

    My workmate hired one and today she was talking about all this stuff she found out and wishes she hadnt hired him, Some pretty heavy and creepy stuff and now she is hurt broken. So it made me start thinking if would, I think i would.


    What about you? And why?Would you hire a private investigor on your spouse if you thought he was cheating?
    NO!


    In some cases monogamy causes wife beatings, alcoholism, rage, hate and a long miserable relationship that goes on years longer than it should have.


    If you think about cheating make sure it's ok with the other person.


    Dont be a douche and lie.





    Actually hang on. Let me read your question....


    uh yes. well no I wouldnt waste the money as theres an easier way to find out. I would ask her/him if they were cheating.


    Give them a chance to come clean.


    And say 'Presume I already know the truth'


    Whats the big deal with loyalty? More like greed.


    'Mine mine, no one else may use'


    If you both love each other enough to sleep with other people and still want to be together you know the love is deep.


    If you cheat and dont want to stay with each other you know it was never right in the beginning. It was just 2 lonely people looking for company.


    Makes me sad.

    Can someone under the age of 21 go into a bar and drink with their spouse If they bring thier marriage license?

    It is in the State of Wisconsin.





    Can someone under the age of 21 go into a bar and drink with their spouse If they bring thier marriage license?
    No. It's not like a movie rating, if a parent brings an under age person.





    No matter whom you are with, all drinkers must be over the legal limit of 21.





    Good Luck!Can someone under the age of 21 go into a bar and drink with their spouse If they bring thier marriage license?
    No, you cannot drink until you are of legal age.





    If you want to drink at home when your spouse is there, go ahead, but you cannot do it anywhere else.
    According to the state of Wisconsin, the person under 21 can enter the bar if their spouse is over 21. However, they cannot legally be served.
    Get divorced, remarry him and get wasted at your reception. Redo this every year till you're 21, then you can go to the bar with him and drink!
    The Legal drinking age is set to protect the developing brains of young adults not to protect the unwed
    just buy the booze and drink at home, it's more fun that way anyways, especially with lots of friends
    Only if the spouse is over 21.
    I doubt it, being married to an older man does not make you legal age.
    Are you kidding? Of course not.
    No.
    No.
    no. Ya can't smoke weed if your married to someone from Amsterdam either.
    not sure, but doubt it.

    If your spouse got into a freak accident and had a severe disability, would you leave them or stay with them?

    By severe disability I'm talking about things like both legs lost, major brain damage, paraplegic, quadriplegic, etc.





    You couldn't have sex with them anymore or do normal things anymore.





    Would you stay by their side til death do you part?If your spouse got into a freak accident and had a severe disability, would you leave them or stay with them?
    stay with them def.If your spouse got into a freak accident and had a severe disability, would you leave them or stay with them?
    now that realy depends.


    if you fell in love with them for theyre looks it wouldnt have lasted long anyway. and if you fell in love with them for their personallity then whats the problem?
    If it were brain damage and they no longer knew who they were or who i was then I'd consider leaving and getting on with my life. If it were just something like no legs or arms then I'd stay with them.
    Depends -- is the brain still working? If so, then I stay. If brain's not working, then I'm gone. This way they won't know what a POS I am.
    I would stay with my wife unless doing so would make it impossible for me to provide a quality life for our daughter, and even then i would visit her as often as possible so she could see us.
    as long as his bran still worked and we could still talk, i would stay with him. Reason why i wouldnt is if he was brain dead because he wouldnt be the man i married.
    i will stay with them.


    what about u??


    but what about if it was you the one who got the accident would u want them to live u???
    Its a Tuffy.








    lmao. i dunna actually.
    I would stay but if I couldn't cope then I'd go
    I would like to think that I would stay.
    Stay with them
    Stay
    You would be a total a**hole to leave them
    For better or for worse. I would stay with him.
    stay
    stay with them
    stay by their side til death do us apart for sure
    yeah id stay.
    If I'm married to them I'm staying with them no matter what.

    Is your spouse any help when you are sick?

    I am sick with head cold that I usually only get twice a year, I always see to his meals and he never runs out of clean clothes to wear. He comes in this evening,clearly seeing that I am sick, yelling because his supper isn't cooked yet and he is hungry. Yes, I take care of him when he is sick. I am usually very good with sarcasm and snappy comebacks but I am too pissed to think of any and probably need some new material. I wish he would at very least take care of himself if he won't be any help for me.Is your spouse any help when you are sick?
    If he's an @sshole when you're sick, next time he's in bed with the flu or blowing chunks like no tomorrow, grab your purse and go out for the day and leave him to it. What's good for the goose is good for the gander after all. Give him a nice dose of his own medicine. He treats you like crap when you're sick because you let him. And you baby him when he's sick anyways ... and it's pathetic. It should be a mutual partnership. If he's not willing to belly up when his turn comes due, stock it away in the old memory bank and exact your revenge when his next illness (aka whine fest) strikes. *sigh* But I've been known to be a vindictive b*tch when it's deserved. Is your spouse any help when you are sick?
    I'm a spouse, my wife is sick. She's been sick for years with lyme disease. She cooks a few times a week. I either get take out of botch together a meal the rest of the week. She doesn't work, I work a lot to make ends meet and I love her. I love her for her. I vaccume, clean the dishes and when I see her struggling with something I take over and let her rest. I take care of her when she is down, not because I vowed to during marriage, because I care about her. That's why I married her.





    I wish you luck in your marriage. (hugs)
    Some men are like that. My ex was like that. I guess that's all part of why he's the ex...My husband takes wonderful care of me when I am sick. He cooks and makes me soup. He lets me rest and he does the dishes. He puts movies in the dvd player for me so I don't have to get up. He's wonderful. Sorry your sick. I would make you soup if I thought it would help!
    Absolutely not. My husband doesn't help me do anything around the house. He works his 40 hours and that is it. I take care of our 3 kids, our home, and even mow the yard. He won't even pick up after himself. It drives me insane. And nothing changes when I am sick. I can be almost on my death bed and still have to do it all.
    wow your husband is either being a smartass or is a selfish prick. seriously i would stop doing anything all together for him if hes gonna treat you like this when your sick. he needs to learn how to be a big boy and be independant.





    as for your question does my spouse help me out wheni am sick. he lets me sleep an extra hour or two but thats about it i still gotta make sure the kids are fed and keep the entertained and all.
    Now, I have the greatest husband... if I do not feel well he will do anything for me. I was not always so lucky, my last ex would almost never lift one finger for me... he thought love had a dollar sign. Now I love someone with a heart of gold, who cares what you can afford if I have him I will always be rich with love from a man who truly cares.
    My wife takes care of me when I'm sick. So do my daughters. When she is sick I try to help out too. She's too tough to slow down though. I've never known a person with a constitution like hers.
    Fortunately, my husband does everything he can when I am sick. He takes over the household until I feel better. Maybe you could talk to him when he is not in a bad mood.
    Tell him he'd better take out a big disability insurance policy on you or BOTH of you will starve to death if you should become seriously ill or be badly injured.
    Your husband sounds so selfish! Yelling at you for being sick? If he wants his dinner he can cook it himself!!
    well if i was you i would leave him sick and yell at him not doing his job


    sometimes we dont see pain until we taste it



    he sound sselfish!! my hubby takes care of me.
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  • Should ending a pregnancy be up to one spouse or both?

    If your spouse got pregnant and wanted an abortion, would you want some say in whether or not she kept the child? After all, it is yours as well. Or women: If you got pregnant and wanted to end the pregnancy, would you let your husband have any say in your decision?Should ending a pregnancy be up to one spouse or both?
    When you say I DO, It is no longer a one way street.


    You should both make decisions together.


    Especially about something as important as bringing another life into the world.Should ending a pregnancy be up to one spouse or both?
    I think if your married its a joint decision... I think both husband and wife have to sit down talk and make the decision together, but ultimately in the end the female is going to have to go through with the pain of having a child or the pain of an abortion (which isn't really physical, but very emotional).





    If you are dating on the otherhand and fall pregnant by accident its the females decision! I know its probably sexist but... Its a very traumatising experience for a female and men have no clue when it comes to how one feels whist pregnant (and again i mean emotionally).





    If you are in this situation, i would strongly advise you to talk to you husband and make the decision together... and it might also be an idea to speak to a conunsellor also, just to get another prospective! Its not a nice thing to go through, esp if you have doubt!





    All the best
    As long as you made that spouse, not just a one night stand, I would say yes, I feel that any decision that has an impact on the relationship should be a combined decision. With part of the marriage plan as usually involving kids, I think it would be irresponsible for the wife not to include the husband in that decision. The same as would be true about me if I were to get a vasectomy, it would have to be a combined decision, it has a direct impact on the relationship.
    When I got pregnant, my boyfriend and I talked about what we wanted to do. I didn't think I wanted an abortion, but I was willing to hear his opinion and take it into consideration. Of course in the end the decision is always up to the woman, if for no other reason than if she is of legal age she can walk into any clinic and get an abortion. But I think if you both made the baby you should both talk about it and decide on it together.
    I believe that when a woman gets pregnant married or not the man and her have a say. But know abortion to take place unless both spouses agree on it. I believe the man should have just as much say as the woman on what happens. The woman should not get more of the say cause she carries the baby. I have actually been in this situation and I wanted to keep the baby my girlfriend got an abortion I was so mad. To this day I feel like I have missed out on my kids life because of that. I did not know what to do. What could I do I could not force her to carry the baby.
    if i got pregnant and wanted to end the pregnancy, i would for sure discuss it with the man who made the child with me. i would also state the reasons why because if i EVER get an abortion it will always be for the right reasons- not just because ';i don't want it';. A child is a miracle and not all couples have the availability to have children.
    Pregnancy is a joint decision in a marriage but ending a pregnancy should not be an option unless there is a case of extreme circumstances like maybe birth would kill mom %26amp; she had other kids to raise. There are too many married couples longing to become parents and that are unable to conceive and adoption just makes much more sense than aborting a fetus that did not ask to be conceived.





    Mary in Camden, MI
    I would not let my partner have a say in the decision, because I personally know that either way I would probably go back and say ';well, I only did it because he wanted to..'; and I'd just play the ';what if'; game with myself. I think as women, we know our boundaries and know if we can handle children at the time or not.





    Edit- My opinion may be different though, seeing I'm only 16 and never have been married.
    Why would anyone want to abort something that has no power to defend itself is beyond me? Abortion is selfish. I don't care what the situation.


    My ex husband actually wanted an abortion when I was preggers w my now 6 yr old. I went ballistic actually ended up in a behavioral center for the way i was acting, anger just surged through me. There is no question here, abortion is wrong!
    I think it's both people's decision. This happened to a guy friend of mine in college. His girlfriend had an abortion and told him a week later. He was absolutely devastated! I remember him saying ';I wasn't prepared to be a father, but I know I would've TRIED...now, I'm just going to wonder why she would do something like that without giving me a chance....that was so selfish, that was my child too.';
    My husband would have a big part in that decision but after trying to get pregnant for three years and then having two miscarriages and losing three babies we would never do that. I think he has as much right as she does to the baby.
    if married yes i think OF COURSE you should talk about it...just like you would talk about buying a dog...but this is a bigger issue...its a child. so yes if you have your reasoning be honest and tell him...maybe after he sees what you're saying he will feel the same way...but talk to him first
    I live in Ky. and when my ex got a vasectomy I had to sign for it because we were married, so my question then was, why wouldn't he have to sign for an abortion?
    Well, since the child doesn't have a say in the matter why don't you let the child choose? It's not the childs fault when someone gets pregnant and selfishly wants to murder it. Give the child a chance.
    All decisions should be made as a couple in marriage, especially children.





    While the final decision will always rest with the woman, unilaterally making a decision like that can be a relationship destroyer.
    I personally think that if you were going to kill a child then the father of that child has a big say in the matter. A baby is a baby, why would anyone want to destroy it?
    we are married, we are a team... we make decisions together.





    if i was not ready for the baby, then my husband would be understanding enough to listen and respect what i wanted.
    I cannot imagine wanting to have an abortion or my ex husband wanting one. But to me, this is a marital decision, not an individual decision.
    i think it should be both because i have 2 exwives an my kids from both marriages live with me

    When is it ok to date if your spouse leaves you and neither party has filed for divorce in Virginia?

    my husband left almost 3 months ago and neither one of us has actually filed for divorce. Not because we want to work it out but for other personal reasons. Will iI be able to date without getting into legal trouble or can he say it is adultry?When is it ok to date if your spouse leaves you and neither party has filed for divorce in Virginia?
    The other answer is correct.... Virginia law states that you must be living separate and apart without cohabitation for 1 year (with children) or living separate and apart without cohabitation for 6 months (without children) and the spouses have entered into a separation agreement.





    Adultery is kind of hard to ';prove'; in regards to filing charges. Some states make it really difficult, so most people don't even bother. Adultery is not illegal, the only thing that can affect the divorce (in regards to committing adultery) is your husband can use it as a ';reason'; to file for divorce.





    Maybe the personal reasons are financially related, or something similar? Either way, you need to get the divorce, THEN start dating. It will save a lot of trouble and worry.When is it ok to date if your spouse leaves you and neither party has filed for divorce in Virginia?
    I would consult a lawyer and find out the law in your state but you need to have a legal document signed by both parties filed with the court thatn agrees you are both legally seperated.
    You can date, but you really need to be legally separated for 6 months in the state of VA before you can divorce.

    Can my spouse divorce me without notofying me or without me knowing?

    I am currently 62 years of age. He abandoned me and my kids about thirty years ago. I was pregnant. He wants a divorce. I raised my kids without any of his help, should he pay for all those years of child support? My kids want him to send me money for all those years because I am elderly and cannot work anymore. That is what I ask of him because he wants a divorce thirty years after he left us My kids and me).Can my spouse divorce me without notofying me or without me knowing?
    You would have to be served the papers. There is no way of you not knowing it.Can my spouse divorce me without notofying me or without me knowing?
    No, he would have to file, however, if he has been living someplace else for 30 years, he could have filed for alternative service, meaning he didn't know how to locate you, so he placed notice ads in local newspapers (where he lived) and proceeded with the divorce. You should have filed against him when he left, your children are grown and you cannot collect ';back child support'; in any court. Sorry about your luck, but being that you didn't file against him, and courts can't take action to put child support into place unless a plaintiff requests the action.
    At some point you have to be notified that this is taking place, as the documents need both parties signatures to successfully complete the divorcing process. I don't believe he is ';entitled'; to provide child support for all those years he wasn't there because technically you guys were still married. Then again, the legal system may find your case in favor of you and order the scumbag to pay you some sort of monetary dues.
    Wow... unfortunately, since you guys were not divorced back then its unlikely you'll be able to get anything from him unless he does it out of the goodness of his heart -- not likely. If you had divorced him back then you could've requested alimony and child support and would've likely been awarded it due to him abandoning you.


    If he does not know where you are, then he can file for divorce and state that he is unaware of your whereabouts. He will then be required to do a Notice of Publication through his local newspaper for 30 days, that is considered him ';serving you';.


    If he knows where you are, then he will have to serve you papers of which you can sign or contest. Contesting will only take longer and cause more stress.


    You may have some type of civil suit? I am really unsure about this but it may be worth your time talking to a Pro Bono lawyer or Legal Aid to see if you can do anything since he abandoned you.


    I would file for divorce first honestly... beat him to it so you will know what's going on and won't be caught off guard.



    Get an attorney and get alimony, that's the only thing you've got coming now. Morally, he owes you more but I doubt that means much to him. He may not know this but you have a right to part of his social security also since you were legally married all these years. Have your attorney look into that. One more little tidbit, if he should pass away, you can collect his social security instead of yours if his is higher. Good luck -
    As a lawyer, I tell you to go see a lawyer in your state.





    Do not seek legal advice in a chatroom.





    Generally, you would get notice. Some of the rest of what has been said in this thread is not correct. You may, or may not be entitled to seek retroactive child support.





    In case you didn't hear me the first time, go ask a lawyer.
    You need to talk to an attorney. I think if he abandoned you, the kids are eligible to receive back child support, but you need to take this to an attorney.
    im not sure i understand...why would you be seperated for so long without getting divorced, and why did you not seek child support 30 years ago? unfortunately legally you can not seek child support for all those year. sorry
    no you can't get back anything, but you can ask for alimony payments...wow after all this time he wants a divorce STICK IT TO EM GRANDMA!!!
    He can start the process but at some point you will be notified.....
    I WOULD GET THAT CHILD SUPPORT BABY!

    What are some good ways to treat your spouse to a nice vacation just the two of you?

    I am going to the Smokey Mountains and wanted to do something or rekindle the fire in our relationship due to military deployments (seperation)What are some good ways to treat your spouse to a nice vacation just the two of you?
    Candle light dinner or a ';couple massage'; in your nearest Spa, if there is one.


    Sometimes, remembering with her why you fell in love with her in the first place, and voicing it, is romantic enough !What are some good ways to treat your spouse to a nice vacation just the two of you?
    How romantic! Just be there for her tell her how you feel buy her flowers. Tell her she is beautiful and enjoy the vacation sounds like you both need it. Treat your selves to a spa and massage and eat lots lol
    I use a tropical cruise line. I sit it all up as far as the planning.





    However....it might not work for you being one (or both) of you two are in the military.

    Do you keep an innocent secret from your spouse?

    Just a silly innocent secret that you are afraid to tell your spouse because you feel he/she might judge you.Do you keep an innocent secret from your spouse?
    From him, my kids, my parents, my bff... life goes lots more smoothly that way. :)Do you keep an innocent secret from your spouse?
    Depends on what the secret is..share and we will be able to help.





    I'll say this..what seems innocent to one partner usually ends up NOT being so innocent to the other. So, what you call innocent may not seem so to your partner.





    Furthermore, secrets, even small ones, are the bricks that wall out intimacy. The more bricks..the bigger the wall.
    I keep so many secrets...its such a shame too because of judgement nobody knows the real me :( Its so sad.
    Don't ask, don't tell!
    Never say..!
    maybe...

    Why do people on Yahoo Answers get angry when someone says they cheated on their spouse?

    i don't usually get angry, but i'll usually just state my opinion. but i notice that a lot of people (usually women) get very bent out of shape when someone posts a question about cheating or being the other woman. Why do people on Yahoo Answers get angry when someone says they cheated on their spouse?
    Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.The pain is inconsolable and changes a person permanently.Why do people on Yahoo Answers get angry when someone says they cheated on their spouse?
    I don't know why it is just women that get angry but I do know that people get upset because it bring up old residue from some of the things that might have happened to them. Pain is a special thing you can not stop it from coming to the front and out. Even old pain. Some people handle it better than others.
    The only times when a woman can cheat on her spouse is:





    - She realized she married too early.


    - She realized that the spouse was ';all talk'; and promised her everything and after getting married, realized he was nothing like he said he was.


    - He has cheated on her before.


    - He is empathatic towards her.


    - He beats her.


    - He's lame and completely out of her league.


    - He makes MUCH less money than her, AND he's lame, AND he's not good looking, AND he doesn't have much of a good heart.





    other than that, its pretty messed up thing to do.
    It's empathy for the spouse who has been cheated on and against the breakdown of morality/respect/the marriage vows.





    Also, many women here have been cheated on...I have no personalexperience with it but I can just imagine what an emotional sucker punch it is...good luck.
    Because people like to be quick to judge others. I know, it doesn't make sense to me either. It's sort of like going to your mother when you have this sort of problem. What will she tell you? ';It's wrong.'; When you try to explain that there's a reason for what you're feeling, she's going to say, ';It's still wrong!'; *LOL* Give me concrete reasons and then we'll talk, right?





    There are no black and white answers in this world. Everyone has their own experiences and we all have to learn the hard way at times. I just hope that someone can learn from what I've been through, and I do my best not to judge as often as possible.
    cuz its messed up how peop[le cheat and expect it to be okay. say im sorry and their spouse just takes them back like its nothting. cheaters are sick. i have been cheated on by 2 women. that i loved dearly. i am just fed up right now with cheaters. once a cheater always a cheater. thats my motto! no second chances and drinking is not an excuse! no one belives in morals anymore and thats y i get mad.
    Because they've never been in either situation. That's a good thing, I applaud them. But it's easy to judge them when they haven't experienced the hurt and loneliness of a bad relationship. The world unfortunately isn't just black and white. There are shades of grey. Hope this helps....
    I only get upset when they are stupid about it and think that the other person deserved it. No one ever deserves to be cheated on and it's so freaking hard to find a decent person these days it's aggravating to see some one treat people they supposedly love that way.
    I've been cheated on and cheaters deserve all the bad crap that life can offer. Cheaters are scumbag losers.





    By the way, look up the rules about posting answers that are opinion. They are not allowed... Just stating the fact.
    because cheating is disgusting and gutless.





    i think we all put ourselves in the other's position and then we get really upset about it. its not fair on them and we hate the thought of that happening to us.
    They probably knows what it feels like to be cheated on and are still angry themselves. Cheating hurts everyone, even the cheaters. It's amazing how many selfish people there are in the world.
    Because the Bible says it's not right and you must be doing it if it seems to bother you that people say bad things about it.
    because it is wrong... cheating is a horrible thing. some people deserve to hear they are a horrible person and maybe they will think and hopefully someday change from their ways.
    They're judgmental. They have never walked a mile in other peoples shoes so it's easy to say horrible things to people that shouldn't be said.
    Probably cause they been through it and they flashback so that's why they get bent out of shape.
    The feminine side comes out which includes DEFENSIVE!!!
    would like it if you had a boyfriend or a husband who cheated on a woman who he loves more?
    Because it brings back painful memories
    Some people don't have class and they think they have the right to judge.
    Because they are paranoid
    I hear you. I mean it is just in our nature to cheat. We are like chimpanzees with houses and cars and cell phones.
    I asked the same question...... you'd think you cheated on THEM the way they act huh? lol
    Because it's wrong.
    it is wrong.. and they picture it happening to them.
    becuz it would hurt so much. and yes it is wrong-.-
    maybe they're too uptight
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