Does it have to get physical to call it fighting?What do you and your spouse argue about?
Hello,
Yes, bickering is the same as arguing. Physically arguing with someone is abuse. Some people will say ';Well, I didn't hit her/him, I just pushed her/him.'; You don't have to 'punch' someone, to mark or bruise them to have physically abused them. It's all the same.
As for arguing, may I make a suggestion to you? This will probably sound much too simple. That's exactly what I thought but within a few days, this idea worked so well that I wouldn't be without it. Give it a go! What have you got to lose!
My Husband came up with a brilliant idea that has helped us so much. It has virtually ended any shouting, words regretted, reduced the time, stress and frustration of arguments.
We have an A5 lined writing book. The front is marked the 'Happy Book', then turning it over and upside down the back actually becomes another 'front' marked the 'Dark Book'.
As and when we have a gripe or a moan, a request to stop or change some sort of behaviour, we write it down in the 'Dark Book' side with the date it was written and by whom. We both have a look in the book on a daily basis and write our answers to each other. If one of us starts an argument or... 'debate', the other suggests... 'Write it in the book'.
Writing things like this down makes you REALLY think about what you want to say. You tend to be more gentle, more diplomatic and of course...lol, there is none of the shouting.
In a similar way, if one of us wants to thank the other for something, make sure that a favour or a chore has not gone unnoticed and is appreciated or, just 'Hello, I love you,' we turn the book over and write it down in the 'Happy Book' side.
As I said, sounds simple but IT REALLY WORKS! Our teenage daughter uses the book too. It has really made talking to, or listening to her so much easier.
It's good to look back at both sides: The Dark side because it gives us a great feeling that we haven't resorted to any kind of shouting or arguing. Reading the Happy Side, remembering all the lovely/fun things
that you've written or have been written about you is so cheering.What do you and your spouse argue about?
if it gets physical its called abuse. verbal too! arguing and bickering are like nagging, it you are getting angry with each other were you go off into another room or leave the house then it gone beyond just bickering. that's fighting. never say something that you may regret later. think before you speak.
i always use the word fighting but we never get physical.
me and my husband fight about money. it makes me mad that that is all he wants to talk about,is either bills,money or what he wants to buy. we can never talk about anything else.
Never physical.
Bickering is just differing opinions but without real emotion.
Argueing and fight is emotional and feelings are getting hurt.
we just argued about my grandkids. our first argument sence we met. i told him i was taking them and moving out unless he can treat them like kidsand not like there in the army being treadted like there soldiers.
no, and no to the last 2.
1 Money
#2 I do more work around the house than he does.
#3 He spends too much time with his friend(he's single).
Basically that's it, we always work it out though.
I would say we often disagree to agree %26amp; its always about our Teenage daughters 鈽?I'm not very understanding or at least that's what I'm told..never anything serious just me not understanding their world
well it should never get physical...
they're all just synonyms for each other.
We only rarely argue, but when we do, it is most commonly over a discipline-related issue related to one of our daughters.
Bickering is a kind of arguing that involves a lot of back and forth with no real progress toward resolution.
Fighting is usually synonymous with arguing, but connotes higher levels of anger than arguing. It need not get physical to qualify as fighting, but if it does get physical, then it is a fight. As I see it, fighting is a subset of arguing - all fights are arguments, but not all arguments get to the point where they qualify as fights.
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