More polite or less so? More kind or less so? Go out less? Spend more or less time together? More open or less? More fun? Treat each other same? More open? More tired or the same? Different character? More busy? Love each other more? Fight more? Etc. How different was your relationship with your spouse when you were first smitten and when you are married?
Some things are the same and some things are different. The only thing that really made a difference in our marriage was his son (i'm not saying in a bad way) when we were dating his son wasn't really in the picture because his son was always with a babysitter or sleeping, I really didn't start playing mommy card until we were married. The baby's real mother isn't in his life so for the past year I have been his mother-when we first got married my husband kind of laid the load on me to mostly be the one to take care of his son-which became a huge problem. Since we got married to save money there are no more babysitters- in the beginning when we went out to the public my husband gave his son to me to watch while he freely ran around the store. During family events my husband gave his son to me while he mingled around with everyone. And for the longest time my husband would sleep in late and I was the one who was up early in the morning until mid-day with his son. And then the biggest problem we had was discipline because my husband (and still today) does not bring authority to his son and I seem to be the one that is. If I do correct his son my husband will yell at me in front of his son and basically make me look like a jackass but when his son is out of control he runs to me to handle the situation...this may have been more theory for me then answering your question, but that was the only difference from us dating to us being married. We kind of have fixed the whole problem of him giving me the hundred percent responsibility of raising (whom I consider) my son...but we are still going through the disapline issue.How different was your relationship with your spouse when you were first smitten and when you are married?
My husband and I have fallen more deeply in love the longer we have been married. We get along better too, we both had some kinks to work out when we were first married. We chose not to live together prior to marriage so that took some adjusting for about the first year I would say. Now we are full of laughter and very happy together. We hardly ever fight anymore, only a small spat on a rare occasion. It's a very peaceful and fun marriage.
I really like that my spouse and I have grown in love and respect for each other as the years progress. It is actually pretty cool. We we shared a deep passion for each other when we first met. The ';getting to know you phase'; of our relationship was pretty rocky - managing the change from single to married. Once we got all the kinks worked out, the relationship has helped us to become better people.
actually, our relationship sucked the first 3 years. it has gotten much better as time has gone by. when we fight, it is very intense, but that is only because we have come to realize we feel what we feel for each other with such strong passion
we have more fun together now, talk about more stuff now...not everything, but more...we are busy, we've had 5 kids, but we make sure to make the time for each other, whereas before, we didn't, and we started to grow apart. we are strong now...and i wouldn't want that to change
well i would say i am less ';smitten';. the honeymoon stage is definitely over. we still go out on dates and spend as much time together as we can, but we also have nights where we go out on our own w/ our own friends. definitely more busy now that we have an 18 month old son. the love is the same, maybe i love him more now because i know him even better than before.
fight more...........
less kind............
never go out .................
more time apart..............
less fun.......................
treat each other worse...........
DIFFERENT CHARACTER FOR SURE
my marriage is going down hill !!!!!!!!!!!! :(
More polite
More Kind
Go out more
More time
More fun
Its better when both people work on the relationship.
It's pretty much the same, we respect each other and always have.
Better.
Now I can fart.
Well, I'm more smitten with him now than when we started going out. We're much closer.
It isn't as intense now as it was then but it has grown into much more. I wouldn't trade the journey for the world.
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