When do you start believing the liar. caught spouse cheating with family friend?

stated it was over. but now they want time to put their feet back on ground. says they love you, divorce isn't an option.been out of the house for a month. left because have 12 yr old wanted her to feel comfort. but when do start believing in their wordsWhen do you start believing the liar. caught spouse cheating with family friend?
i am in a similar situation. lied to and cheated on for over a year, maybe 2 I don't know. but i don't know where the truth begins and lies end. it makes you question yourself and everything you thought about people. But if you look back, your instincts or something probably tried to tell you, but you didn't want to listen. I didn't. I believe your instincts tell you what to do, we just don't want to listen sometimes. I think its possible to rebuild after betrayal, i've heard a few stories. But most don't. Most people can't regain the trust back and then the betrayer doesn't truly change. Unless you both are willing to commit to change and work 200 % to find out what the root of the problem is, only then is there real hope for a happy future.When do you start believing the liar. caught spouse cheating with family friend?
why are you saying ';they'; %26amp; ';their';??? as tho ';they'; are what you care about. You only care about one of them. And what is that about them needing time to put their feet on the ground? In other words...';they'; got caught....and are buying more time together. Don't be nieve and don't be a doormat for them to wipe their feet on. Stay gone and keep moving. Don't settle.
you either forgive which will take time and therapy possibly or let them go. Children should not be the reason to stay, you are worth more than that. They will apologize to you but its up to you, consult a therapist, marriage counceling or self therapy.
thats a tough decision. i ,personally, couldnt trust someone that did that to me ever again. unfortunately once trust has been lost its nearly impossible to regain, at least not without a lot of work and communication. do you think you could ever trust him/her again? maybe you should give it another chance for your childs sake but if it does happen again divorce would be the only option. good luck.
';too hard to trust a liar.';








What kind of an asinine statement is that????





Why would you want to in the first place if you know the person is a liar?








Thanks...great advice Happy. You should become a marriage counselor with brilliant pearls of wisdom such as that.
Betrayal is a hard thing to get past. You should go to marriage counseling together and work through this for your daughter. He's going to have to open himself up completely to you and be completely transparent. Is he willing to do that?
i dont think i ever could. i'm not sure if people ever do. good luck.
too hard to trust a liar.
Hard to trust a cheater. In fact i dont think i ever could
I never can. They are a liar... like they are white or a man or stupid. They wont change.