It makes you normal in my book, but I'm a one-woman demolition crew.Does being unfaithful to your spouse make you a bad person?
It does make you a bad person for making bad choices. If you do it repeatedly, then you have to admit this does help your character. If you can live with being a cheater, then you are a bad person. No one deserves to be cheated on, not even the cheater. Every man that I have been with has cheated on me. So, what does that mean when you are not the cheater? Do you deserve to be cheated on and offended? Things happen; but the cheater allows him/herself to excuse their behavior and that is what makes you a bad person.
On the surface, yes! But, and I am not defending cheaters here, every case is different. It is never justified. But the most common response by people who voice an opinion on cheaters is that they have either been hurt themselves first hand or they resort to a stereotype of a cheater. While it's true, cheating is never an option nor is it justified, and I suppose at it's very core it exhibits selfishness. But there are people, and again it's not right, who like a man or woman who continually take abuse and are not strong enough to walk, they find ways to cope. With some it's alcohol, others drugs others food and yes some sex. The ones who cheat here, while just like getting high or drunk is not the answer, they are preyed upon by men amd women looking for a weak person with whom to seduce. Does it make it right? No! but are they essentially bad people no! Again, while it is never the right decision, you have to look at the person on a case by case basis before you deem them a bad person. Even good people make bad decisions.All the others who have given you snap answers, never know what or when they may be tempted to cheat, lie, steal I am certain if they did they would not be to anxious for people to label them a bad person until they have had a chance to explain their side. True their are a lot of people who are cold, unfeeling and they cheat and because of their character they are bad people. But to label everyone who ever cheated as a bad person is way to harsh and way to black and white.
Yes. Betrayal, disloyalty, deceipt, selfish, disrespect, narcissis, homewrecker, untrustworthy, liar.... These are words that describe a cheater. All bad.
A cheater hurts the person they claim to love. And if they dont love their spouse, then they are living a lie by being in the relationship and pretending that they do.
If the cheater can do all that to their spouse that they claim to love, how can they claim to have good character, morals and integrity?
My opinions of a cheater... well now let's see.
Not having the courage to end a relationship when it's not working for them anymore before they find another.
Having to lie about loving someone, lie about what they do, where they are, who they talk to, what their happy with, what they are not.
Possibly lying to both (one their with and the new hookup).
Not committed to their own responsibility.
Not thinking of the dire consequences they put others through.
Innocent other spouses, children, their jobs are in hot water.
Not to mention the financial woes.
They want satisfaction, gratification, and acceptance at the price of .... everything.
Then complain about the ex-spouse being a pain, complain about the money they loose, complain about the children they don't get to see.
The house they used to own.
The respect people once had for them.
They loose. Plain and simple
The act of cheating is the bad thing. Even simple caring law abiding people do this. They don't see what their doing until they have to clean up the mess.
It wouldn't matter what I thought of my spouse anymore...I would hate him very much. All the really great things that I once thought about him or all the really great memories and moments, would vanish. It would be like none of it ever existed. And that it never happened. I would kick him out of my heart in a heartbeat. I would slam the emotional door in his face and never let him back in.
I hate cheaters. Its the biggest rejection and betrayal to our marriage and whom I was as a person, a wife and a mother.
Cheating is heartbreaking, deceitful and terribly painful. It erodes your self esteem and self confidence. It makes you feel worthless.
And the only kind of person that could cheat, is pretty much scum of the earth. I have 0 respect for cheaters. And I think they deserve a fate worse then being cheated on.
But what goes around comes around and Karma is a b*tch!
Of Course... When two people are married they decided through thick and thin, poor or sickness they would stick together... How would it feel if you were cheated... Everyone is human and we all have feelings... If you feel your both not compatible anymore than divorce before seeing others because being unfaithful while married really hurts and is unfair to them. Also once a cheater always a cheater... its hard to change when your an adult- according to psychology books...
In my book YES! To cheat and know that if your spouse found out he/she would be terribly hurt is just wrong.
You took vows. To cheat you had to have found yourself in that situation and chose to do nothing about it. Cheating most of the time starts out with a little flirting here and there and then emotional cheating begins. You're only bound to want to physically cheat after wards. If you honestly had no intentions on cheating on your spouse then you should not leave yourself open to others. I.E. Allowing other people whether it's associates or good friends to say or do inappropriate things (hugging inappropriate, heavy flirting, sexual conversation, sexual gestures, etc.) and you do not let these people know their boundaries then you are leaving yourself open to that type of attention. (yes I am married)
I think people who cheat are selfish individuals who dont think of anyone else but themselves. They dont think of the other people involved in the situation who are going to get extremely hurt. If they're that bored in their relationship, talk to the other person- dont be a complete dumb*** and ruin another persons life by making them feel they weren't good enough.
what? you are kidding right? hurting the one you promised to love, honor, is not a bad thing. if someone feels that just being with only one person don't satisfies them , them why get married,they get married on their own free will, so yes it is very wrong, so tell me if your spouse cheated on you what type of a person would he/ she be?
It doesn't make you a bad person. Always remember only god can judge you. Honestly your just a person that wasn't ready for the the committment of marriage. I think first you need to ask yourself why do you feel the need to cheat.
Try and make the right decision. If you can't make it on your own seek help.
Good luck
Sounds like a little guilt here? My opinion of a cheater. Bad person, not necessarily but very selfish and very difficult to respect. You certainly can't be admired, right? Anyway you slice or dice this scenario, it's not very positive.
If cheating makes you a bad person then I don't think I've ever met a good person in my life.
My opinion is that if you're a cheater it only means you're human.
Being unfaithful to your spouse only makes you a bad person to your spouse. Not to anyone else.
It does not make you a bad person, it shows how weak you can be. You may be the nicest person around but you have self control issues you need to resolve.
Of course.
Marriage is a holy institution. It is a promise you make, not just to one another, but also to God Himself.
And a person who would break such a promise is a bad person.
Period.
Good Luck!
it makes one an adulterer. the ONLY reason God allows divorce, the adulterer forever broke the marriage covenant, a sacred vow, promise to God and to one another.
If you devout your life (thats what getting married is) to a single person and you betray that you are indeed a bad person. Most people these days are lucky how lax we are in treatment of cheaters.
yes why would you even consider taking vows of marriage if your not going to take the seriously what is the point to hurt someones feelings, opinion of a cheater is someone who has no self worth
Yes. You are in essence, breaking rules. You are a bad person since you in fact made a committment to a person and now choose to not honor it.
Should have never gotten married in the first place.
in trust, yes ! as for the remainder no. you are living with yourself %26amp; by yourself. you came to this life alone %26amp; leaving alone. hopefully this kind of answers your question
Yes, it makes you a really bad person. And you deserve everything that happens to you as consequences.
No. It's the other way around. Being a bad person makes you unfaithful to your spouse. (I'm surprised nobody else pointed that out yet.)
It doesn't make you a bad person,it makes you a person that makes BAD decisions.
I'm not going to say it makes you a bad person but it makes you a shitty spouse.
it doesn't make you a bad person,just a cheater.how would you feel if he cheated on you?ask yourself that question.
it means you made a series of bad decisions. It is not all there is to know about you however.
no,just a bad spouse
Deal breaker for me -
Lowest form of Life!!!!!!!
No, it does not. We are all human and we do make mistakes.
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